First of all what you are feeling is normal. It's not a syndrome or anything of the sort. For me, the question you need to ask yourself is; is the need to be successful with women the driving point of your interactions? If so, you will need to work a little bit more on your Inner Game.
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Last night I tried saying persistent with the girls that said "get away" but I wasn't successful in pushing through. I try to be friendly with everyone to make my value higher but sometimes it's hard to project that when a venue is crowded.
It's always great to be persistent, most guys walk away after a comment of such, giving up. However I'm going to question your intentions with women. Are they clear? When you interact with a woman, does she know where the interaction is heading? What you want from her? This doesn't have to be said directly however she should be feeling that you are genuine in your reasons for talking to her. Whether that be, she'd make a good friend, you are bored, you are attracted to her, you want her as your girlfriend, you want to fuck her etc.
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I was thinking maybe I should start incorporating canned openers and routines to get a more positive response,but I was never good at memorizing those things.
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Maybe I am expecting too much since I got some good results in a past month, and I am expecting them to continue, which is not the case apparently.
I question the need to get a positive response. Effectivily by using canned openers and routines, you are stripping yourself of your own unique identity. Sure, they great for building confidence when first starting out. However you've already had success.
The great experiences you have had in the past are a clear indication that you are more than capable of attracting women. The problem lies with your current state of mind. I feel once you get rejected consecutively you begin to question your own skills or feel there is a fault with yourself. Thinking in this fashion will throw off your game. Sooner or later you are too pre-occupied in your own thoughts you often neglect what is happening right in front of you. You generally become desperate just to 'break out of this negative momentum' and get her to say something positive.
Next time you feel things are starting to get shit, take a step back. Are things actually getting shit. That stranger that turned you down, is their opinion really that important to you that it gets your general mood down? Do you need validation that you are an awesome guy? No, becuase you are awesome. This is Inner Game.
A big tip that helped me in my game is to enjoy yourself and have fun too. I mean actually have fun. None of the fake smiles and I'm having such a blast bullshit. Women will know it's fake before you even open your mouth. Enjoy the conversations you hold with people. Listen to the words she says and reply how you would normally if you were talking to a friend. Your responses shouldn't be changing because you are talking to a woman. Nor should they if you are trying to make yourself 'high-value'. It's not something should be forceful.
If you are talking to women simply to tick a checklist of things you have to do, ie. get her to smile/laugh, touch you, show interest, kiss you, give you her number, give you a postive response etc. then your intentions with a woman are not genuine. She is just an ego-boost/validation for you.
These are some thoughts to reflect upon. Feel feel to ask any questions if needed.
- Kang