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I can keep a conversation exciting with high energy for about 5 minuites ..after the first 5 I run out of material. Any advice on this ?
should I keep up this excitement the whole date and if so how ?
Did you run out of being an interesting person?
This is a big problem that is trending in the community. Why do you feel the need to rely on material through and through? Do you not feel good enough to hold the attention of a beautiful woman? And if the answer is no, how do you suppose SHE will ever feel that you are good enough to be around her? How are you supposed to build a relationship (whatever it may be you want from her) with this woman if you can't allow yourself to be authentic around her?
How can you make her feel like a woman, if you can't bring yourself to feel like a man?
As a general rule, understand that whatever you feel, she will feel. We learn early on in the community that women are emotional creatures and much more intuitive than men, and yet we waste so much time trying to promote material to somehow 'trick' women into being with us. Can't you see why this is paradoxical? I'll let you in on a secret: It's in your eyes. Beware of them, they'll always betray you. Always.
Be Happy!
This is in no way a bad thing! It means that the more genuine you are, the easier she will pick up on it. It actually makes game SO much easier because you realize that there really is nothing extraordinary you need to do to attract her. It means that you won't trick your way into her panties because she knows right off the bat what kind of man you are. Whenever someone asks me what kind of man I am, I respond with the same thing; "I am a work in progress". I love that mindset, because it acknowledges that I am far from perfect, and that every day is a new opportunity for me to excel and better myself.
Become a yes man
So to answer your question: If you can't think of an interesting story that happened to you int he past week, you arn't living an interesting life. Become a yes man! Say yes to every new opportunity that presents itself. If you have the choice between taking the subway 3 blocks or walking, walk! Go on an adventure! Just 3 days ago I decided to go to a cocktail party that some business was hosting. I showed up and made friends, who invited me to a beer pong party that night. Friends I met there invited me out to a party tonight and a cocktail next week. Go on adventures, and bring her along! One thing Zan told me over dinner when he was visiting a few weeks ago was that he never goes on dates. He just invites the girl along to whatever he was doing. And sure enough, that night at the club, a cute Russian girl showed up to meet him.
Be authentic!
One thing my girls all love about me is that I always say exactly what I'm thinking. I will meet a girl and turn to her friend "Jesus, you're cute too! Who are you?" as if it were the most normal thing in the world. Women are the most beautiful thing God has ever created and I intend on letting them know that. When you approach all women with that same passion and curiosity, you don't ever 'run out of material' because there's no such thing as material. "I'm curious about you. Tell me about you, I wanna hear everything!". Talk about her passions! listen to her. Don't think. I used to do that all the time. I wouldn't listen, I would just think of something to say while she spoke. Shut up and listen. The most interesting man in the world is the one who knows how to listen best. If you REALLY run out of things to say "Woah, I completely ran out of things to say! You say something!" With a big I-own-the-world-smile.
Altho you will be tempted to ignore this, and probably listen to other posters who will give you little routines and gambits to use, I promise you will benefit the most by abandoning all that surface junk and work to really become a better man. That's not to say that fun little games don't have their uses, but they should not be used to replace or hide your authentic self.
Good luck brother
Let me know how it goes
Love and lots of it
Mack
Fucking brilliant! I really hope people listen to you and others like you.
When I go out, I'm just completely comfortable with who I am. Be relaxed in your own body and with everything you say and do. Keep your smile genuine (relaxed), head and shoulders relaxed and back. Just take a deep breath and don't be a try hard. The conversation tips Mack gives about being interested and listening to what she has to say are perfect, and if your not genuinely interested in what she's saying, don't persue her. Don't lean in and be all over her. It's up to you to notice the indicators of interest and take it on from there.
I'm definitely not the loud, brash, joker of the group by nature, I'm glad though, as that just shouts desperation and bigheadedness to me (in some cases). If you're only gonna take one piece of advice from me, do not be bigheaded or full of yourself in anyway, you should be self-deprecating with your humour, never take yourself too seriously, just be passionate in everything you do.
This is the first time I've given advice online. I'm not a PUA or pro in anyway, so I hope this this isn't a complete waste of time. This is just from my own experiences. By being like this, I've made a few close women friends (good looking too). They're completely comfortable around me and can talk about anything and everything. It's incredible the things you can learn from them. It's best to learn from women about women, when they don't know they're giving any advice (most of the time). Just LISTEN and be POSITIVE!
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