The girl Im crushing on at work....

I come up with this plan to go to one of my fvorite bars, which happens to be next to her favorite sushi joint. She doesn't know I know its her favorite.

I have a beer and text her:

"name of restuarant......come".

hb: "What?! thats my favorite place!

I tell her I was with friends next door and they left and i was hungry.

hb: "i have to pick up my script, have another beer"

She texts me a couple more times, once telling me that she looked like a scrub. I took this as an ioi. I responded that I looked awesome.

So i start working the room so it looks like i have a lot of social proof when she walks in.

while meeting people, I missed a text from her asking if she should go home and shower first.

Then about 30 minutes later, I get a text asking me where I am, and that she was at the resturant waiting for me for 30 minutes.

I knew this was BS, she knew I was next door, and why wouldn't she check there....there was never mention of this again.

At this point, I knew where this was going, so I went to eat alone.

While eating she texted me me about meeting up later.

we texted mostly fluff a few more times during the night, I told her where I was, but she didn't respond.

a while later I texted her that she was now downgraded to work gf 3#. She lol'ed.

So what was she thinking...what were her motives? why would she say she was coming and not come?

if anybody is capable of understand this behavior, please explain.

Im thinking when I see her next, I will make no mention of this and be unresponsive.

Who knows what was going on in her world at that time. Only she and the walls do.

I was able to piece together a few things via her roomate, a good pal of mine.

Apparantley her bf showed up unexpectedly, there was xanax involved, and they were waiting for a weedman who never showed.

priorites I guess

Still trying to figure out how to turn this around so she's chasing me.

when I text, she replies. when I see her at work, we're unseperable.....yet its hard to get her to go out.

and she just texted me......

told me she was chillin' at home and asked if i work today.

told her I did, she replied with "awwwww"

Im looking for a way to dq her through are next series of texts, without going overboard.

man stay back if she got a boyfriend she already belongs to him!

She initiated you, she's interested. You have 3 options: 1) play it the way you've been doing, 2) take some risks pushing boundaries by sexualizing things (e.g., misinterpretation, innuendo), or 3) become a bit aloof (which I'd say is counterproductive at this point).

I'd go with option 2) since you've got nothing to lose and it infers as much by doing so. If her ex is a viable option for her, which likely he is, I'd work on escalating things a bit quicker so she becomes entrenched/invested. Be prepared for some resistance. Resistance is good, its your friend. Rather than fearing it, accept it as a given in most any situation and further, take it as an opportunity to demonstrate greater value (e.g., being non-reactive, and above all else being persistent).

Above all else, plan for a meet preferably some time in the evening and make her an offer she can't refuse;)

you shoild bring somthing from her place to work for her on a busy day

ppfff where are you coming from with this? since when is some probably beta's time and pleasurables more valuable than yours?

keep at it, homie, by which I mean don't keep at it, if you know what I mean. aggressively disinterested. if you have to, approach her at work to show her you've deleted her from your phone (try to do this under another pretense like showing her the other girls you have on your phone and she will see her name is not there)

The weak guy shy's away from opportunity. If your self-esteem is caught up in this girl, which it shouldn't be, the notion of backing off because a potential other suitor is lurking about will be in-line with this maladaptive reality you'd constructed. Remember, the reality is however you choose to frame it, if you see somebody else as a potential threat you'll project that. If, however, you come at her with the confidence that you've got much to offer then its business as usual.

I'm not about breaking people up, but no girl EVER belongs to ANYONE! She is free to make the decisions she makes, if she is going to cheat there is nothing you or her BF can do to stop it.

My suggestion is to make yourself a little more scarce, when she texts, just reply with something trivial. "I'm in the middle of something text ya later!" and then forget to text her later. She will be like I wonder what he is doing, and when you don't text she will wonder why you didn't text her back. This means she is thinking about YOU. When ya talk again and she asks, just say I was hanging out with a friend. She should start to wonder, a guy friend or girl friend? Let her mind do the work for you!

Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

I like that....damn too bad its too late. Im half tempted to text her when I get off work, try to hang out, but im thinking better of it.

Its obvious she is enjoying the interaction, and im told she is not completely happy w/ her bf, who ignores her and id outta town most of the time.

If her BF is ignoring her and travels often, then it will actually be harder to get her to leave him (Law of who cares less applies). In this case, I suggest sending her a text saying:

You: "Ok, 7:30 then!".
HB: "What's 7:30?".
You: "Church services, You need some God in your life! LOL".
HB: "LOL" or something in a fun tone.
You: "Haha, actually that text was not meant for you, I am meeting a friend at 7:30...But you do need some God! "

Then go cold (no replies to any texts)!

Next time you can use recall humor "Find God?" to get a laugh.


Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

I haven't been here long, Crypto, but you definitley stand out here.....theres always a few that do.

thanks!

Thanks! By adding the extra comments in there is looks less like you intentionally "accidentally" texted her. If you can understand that.


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

oh man accidental text that is a slick move, that way she will think you have a ton of other stuff going on that night and she is just a sideshow in your mind! beautiful move, b-e-a-utiful

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