Hey friends, not really sure where this should be posted and this question has probably been asked many times before, but after reading about game on here incognito for the past two weeks, I'm desperate. There is this girl, who I've basically really liked since we first met 3 YEARS ago.. But I am really shy and don't have the disposition to confidently go out there and get a girl. We became best friends, and have been for 3 years. I thought my feelings would have died down by now, but they haven't, and I feel I have to get it out to her.

I would like to do so in the most successful way possible, and if there is any way it might come out in a romantically positive fashion, I would be ecstatic.
My biggest problem is that I KNOW she only thinks of me as her confidante, best friend, brother.... friendzoned. I know it is common to believe it is impossible to get out of the friend zone but if there is ANY possibility, I would like input on how to make this work with my shy disposition, especially since I know someone else is moving in on her..

I'm a 2nd year college student with very little experience but since I've got here I have gamed amateurly a little bit with some success, even losing it this year, but I just don't feel it; it's not her. Thank you all so much in advance for reading and your responses. Looking forward to becoming a larger member of this community.

Rafi

i also fell inlove with my bestfriend before

Mate, I can't help you with words or anything like that, but I can give you the advice that you can definitely do it... I've done it before.

I will say that when you are attracted to someone you have already been friends with for a long time, it turns out better if you remain friends with her, but 'with benefits'.

You learn alot about someone you didn't know when you get in a relationship. Things she would never have guessed about you and things you would never have guessed about her. The pressure of trying to make the relationship succeed in spite of this can have some negative effects.


Friends with benefits is better. You get practice, you stay friends and no pressure because It's not a relationship.

Yeah, I get that. I had one here for awhile. She's definitely not the type for that though. Definitely into more depth and commitment to give meaning to physicality. And I feel like I'm at that stage where I get that.
I don't need words, just a framework or guidelines.... Such a thorny spot to be in.