Alright, so today I approached this girl while I was in line at Starbucks, I'm slowly becoming more confident at approaching. Because she was infront of me with her back facing me, I knew that I should never approach directly from behind, so I leaned forward and grabbed a water so she would see the guy who's behind her (me). So, after that I opened with the first thing that came to mind -I picked up a starbucks cup and started saying how cool and crafty they are. After a few moments of chit chat, it was obvious that she was of a foreign ethnicity. I have some confidence in being able to destinguish people, so I went with my gut and asked if she was Persian -I love Persian girls, and it just so happened that my gut served me well because I was right. So, using some of the farsi that I know, I through out some sensible phrases and words that I knew. She kind of got excited and asked how I knew. I told her that I myself am not Persian, that I'm Mexican, adopted, but my dad is from Iran (which is true). I couldn't tell if she became disappointed or not, but her personality towards me shifted to "nuturing" tell me things like "awe, it's so cute that you know surprised her with some Farsi that I know and she started saying, "awe, that's cute that you know farsi," and started talking to me like I was a kid. So then after we ordered our drinks, I went to the little utensil stan that they have that she was at and continued the conversation. However, in an attempt to come across as more dominant and less desperate, I asked her if she knew any good Persian restaurants because I have a date tomorrow. After gleaning a bit of info, I asked her for her name, gave her mine, and then left. Now I'm analzying the interaction I had with her trying to figure out what I did and didn't do wrong. Help me out guys!

You forgot to get her number?? It was going so well LOL

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Your body language. Words are just 7% of communication. Telling her you had a date the next day only blew you out. Besides, you can look all tough and stuff but some girls are just like that. They're emotional creatures, why should it be a goal to come off as threatening. So what if she was talking to you like a kid, do you think she still would talk to you the same if maybe you would have tried to escalate? Chances are it was just in your head, ego. When a girl talks to me like that, I don't mind, I like it. She doesn't find me threatening, she's relaxed with me. You were worried because you were probably insecure, already knowing that you're skinny/no facial hair/baby face, etc.

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I lost my anxiety a little bit, but how am I supposed to get her number when I sense that she's feeling it? I felt like she was acting nurturing towards me -which is like landing in the friend zone.

You're right, Chris. I was a little insecure. I'm trying to figure out how to master myself, to go from beta to alpha by being more care free. It's difficult. S how could I have escalated the situation?

You were already triggering an emotion in her, got a conversation flowing. Women are drawn to emotional, passionate men. Escalating has a lot to do with body language. You could of looked at her seductively, then at her lip without saying anything. She would ask you the much expected, "What?" You say, "I like your lips, they look cute." Then you say put your hand out, spin her around. Before you know it, you're the one nurturing her.

Worrying about being alpha only works when you know that it will make you more attractive, not because you have an insecurity. That's when you go overboard or mess something up like trying to make her jealous telling her that you had a date. Maybe the poor girl was really interested in you until you shot her hopes, lol

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

The OP is correct, it was your own anxiety that stopped you NOT hers.

Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions, in every situation. So what. I f you don't do anything nothing else will happen!

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