My girlfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago (we dated for 4 years on and off) and I haven't seen her since because she left the country. She contacted me yesterday and told me that she is coming here for a few days and wants to see me. While we are talking she told she had a boyfriend and she said: "i found a better guy than you I didn't think it was possible". She also started remembering how we cuddled and stuff like that. Why is she sending me mixed signals? What does she really want?
You input is greatly appreciated guys

Dont entertain such rubbish.

I would not see her and avoid her calls etc. for when she is there. There is nothing good that will come of seeing her (other than an ego boost for her with the "look how happy i am" routine).

I can't not see her. she is going to be in my university and in my dorms... It goes without saying that i still love her no matter how many relationships/flings i have. Any ideas ?

To be honest I'd of replied;

"Now that's not a very nice thing to say! However, I'm glad you've found a nice guy!! I'm sure I'll see you around when your here."

Then I'd freeze out until you bumped into her in person. That will of got her mind working.

Seriously mate, im talking as someone whose wife left him on Boxing Day last year after 7 years of marriage. I was completely gutted for a couple of months but got my sh1t together and moved on. You have to let go.

There are bazillions (and i dont use that number lightly ) of women in the world. You will get over it and move on to better things. Concentrate on hobbies and interests, if being a PUA is one of them - put some time into that.

If you beg and whine for her back you will only live to regret it. The relationship ended for a reason. Move on and enjoy life.

She said that to you and you STILL want to see her?

Why?!

Even if you still have feelings for her, the best thing you can do for yourself right now is move on. I would not see her at all. She is just going to mess with you and talk about how great of a relationship/boyfriend she has now. You don't want to do that to yourself. Start having some self respect.

Don't worry about what signals she is giving you or what she wants, start worrying about what you want. It is normal to go through this phase where you miss your ex and want to get back together with her. Believe me, it happens to all of us. Don't give into this. This would be you throwing in the towel. There are tons of other amazing girls out there, who would never disrespect you like she did. Do you really want to keep someone in your life who tells you she found someone BETTER THAN YOU? Fuck that, you are the shit, find a girl who realizes you are the best person in her life. Plus, you guys broke up. There had to be something that caused that, even if it is hard to recall right now.

You said she is only going to be in town for a few days, I suggest you keep yourself extra busy. Do some things you haven't done before. Go hiking. Go canoeing. Go take a karate class. Just don't give into her and see her.

You are done with this chapter in your life. You are moving forward. You are going to find a better woman (probably won't be hard) who truly appreciates you.

Oh fuck you're right. what she said was truly a shit thing to say. i didn't realize it at that time. I'm trying to move on really, i have had 2 flings in the last 4 months which for me is great. I'll do my best not to see her

He nailed it.

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"i found a better guy than you I didn't think it was possible".

is your self value that low? you deserve someone who likes you just the way you are!

Alright i'm getting the hair dryer SPAM here for nothing haha. i'm not going to see her when she comes. she is the who talks to me everytime i never start a conversation with her. All what i was asking is why would she say that now and would she even want to see me?

Bro stop worrying, see it as a prospect to fuck her.

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

Drop this bitch and get more women in your life, focus on your game bro!

Short and sweet I think

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Now we're talking guys thanks everyone