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Im on board with this... basic operant conditioning. Im not sure trolling someone with a weak psyche is a great idea but pacifying them isnt either. Ive had a few friends thru the years that I just wanted to scream "youre being a pussy" to. Their answer is always... They should love me for who I am. Great! But how about the best version of you. Haha, or an attractive version of you. Also, I think one of the biggest ways to improve your game is thru abundance. Being able to walk away is powerful! and women know it!
Caring about people for who they are is fine.
Telling them dickish shit like "How about the best version of you." is selfish and superficial and tends to piss people off.
If you care about someone and are a genuinely nice person you would like them for who they are and wouldn't say shit like that to people. Instead you might let them know that there's some things they can work on and point them out IF they want to know.
Like my friend Mike. He's always begging for shit and it's irritating so I tell him he needs to stop doing that and that he's my friend and all but it's really irritating when he asks for stuff all the time.
Other people berate him with negative comments and tell him "Get a job, loser!" which just frustrates him and makes him feel like shit. All they see is the part where he's begging but don't notice anything else about him... For someone who isn't of a strong mind, like Mike, this will push him into depression.
He says when I tell him he's cool, "just stop fucking begging for shit. I understand he doesn't have things and hey come check out this job I found out about" He doesn't feel like shit about it and actually have more desire to fix his problem and get a job and start saving more money.
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