Hey guys, so I'm in my fourth night of College, in "Freshers week".

So I got ok at direct game back in Vienna, I'm now in London in Uni. I thought this was gonna be the shit, that I was gonna get laid so easily. But I'm finding this harder than normal game actually.

In normal game I can go up and approach and be direct and then state my intention and so on and so forth. Here I can't do that. This is social circle stuff.

I'm finding this a little more difficult and I need your help. I read through a bit of the College thread here and I understand all the theory. But the practice is another thing.

At the moment I'm very outcome dependent, because if I get rejected a lot I don't want to be that guy who hits on girls and just gets rejected. This could all just be in my head. But I'm finding it hard to grow the balls and approach with intention. I can open with normal situational openers and stuff, but I don't think I can open direct.

I was in a uni club tonight, and firstly I hate club game, and secondly, the whole uni reputation thing. I felt good at the time, but I didn't approach.

Also there are a few chicks in my class who are very attractive and nice as I spoke to them. Sure they may have given off a few IOIs like hair touching and just fucking conversing with me. But at the moment I didn't get numbers from chicks I liked as I didn't have enough time to talk to them and I felt it wasn't necessary at that point (we're only three days in). I'll see them again anyway.

But how different is College/Uni game to normal game in the real world? Does the same principle apply "Don't shit where you eat"?

I don't know, I feel a lot of pressure. I didn't approach properly at all tonight at the college club. My normal approach is direct, or going in with intention, not indirect as I suck at all that playing games shit.

Any advice or experience you have is highly appreciated. It feels good to have a community to back you up and help you out. Thanks guys.

Also, just to make it clear, I was never the "life of the party" and it takes me great effort and energy to be the loudest or most social person in a social circle. Mainly because a lot of people just don't interest me and I don't want to fake being the friendly one that invites everyone everywhere.

Ok, so here is the thing. You got to start with things that are not girls related and be direct about it about it. For example direct game with girls would be to go straight up to them and tell them your interested. This can be translated to other things as well. For example to your opinions and life stories. Many guys hide their real opinions and choose the most safe opinion in order not to look weird. Just like people chose indirect game which is more safe. What you have to do is be otherwise and have the opinion that you like. Once you start doing that for your opinions apply it to other parts of your life and eventually it will come naturally with girls. Of course many people will think that your weird but many will like you. As far as now, just game girls indirectly, be fun, flirty, adventurous etc...

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I went to a big UK university, so I think I've got a few ideas for ya:

First of all, you are right, it is all about social circle stuff. This means you've gotta actually make yourself a cool guy. (This seems to be all I ever say. Eventually people are going to get bored of me saying this). You actually have to work on your personality - make yourself funnier, more dominant, more confidant, because you will be seeing these girls a lot.

However, believe me when I say that all the most successful guys I met at uni, met girls though social circles, and just met random girls in clubs/bars etc. And the most successful guys I hung out with, got rejected loads. Sometimes it was ridiculous just how much they got rejected. And yet they still pulled the hottest girls, and loads of them.

So the way to be able to do this without becoming a creepy guy, and like you say, shitting where you eat, is the following:
1. become that awesome guy above.
2. be sexual with people even when you aren't hitting on girls. For example, I used to joke with some of my close female friends who I never hooked up with all the time. I'd have no problem telling one of my friends "Hey sarah, you look fucking hot tonight. You're going to be getting a million guys hit on you, we're not going to see you all night!". Or when you are in the bar talking to your group, put your hand on a girls shoulder for a little longer than usual and just let it rest while you are talking. Be really touchy, but not creepy or lecherous.
3. Also openly talk about sex, how hot that girl was that just walked past, how hot your lecturer is, or whatever, to your friends (guys and girls). Be a sexual guy. But act like it isn't a big deal. Obviously do this with balance, don't talk about sex all the time or you're bordering on sex-pest territory!

Do all of that.

then 4. go and directly hit on girls you want to meet in the club. If it doesn't go anywhere, don't worry about it. If you get called on approaching 10 girls in a night, just smile, shrug, and say "of course, did you see her, she was fucking smoking hot! She wasn't interested in me though, ah well, doesn't matter, I got a really hot chicks number yesterday and she's been texting me all day wanting to meet up, so we're golden. Hows your dating life going?"


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So that's the practical bit. The only other advice I've got for ya is that college/uni has this reputation for being "really easy" to get laid in.

In reality, it's exactly the same as getting laid in the real world. In the real world, picking up chicks is - and always will be - somewhat of a numbers game. You can never predict what a girls reaction to you will be. If she's really upset because she just got fired, then noone is picking her up that night. In college/uni, it's exactly the same. It's still a numbers game, you will still get a lot less than 50% of the girls you hit on. The difference is that there are tens of thousands of hot girls that you find attractive in the same small area and social groups. Which means meeting them and going through the inevitable numbers game can be really quick, and you can get laid a ridiculous amount with really hot girls.

That's my 2cents. Go forth and have fun

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