Right, so I have this girl. Very nice but I keep getting these mixed messages from her, I'm pretty good at reading body language but hers is all over the place. One minute she's not talking to me, then she can't get enough of me. One second we are just friends, the next she's touching me and talking about sex with fucking IOI's and all this shit. The most indecipherable thing happened the other day. I went out to the bar late, at about 11pm. She had already been there since 9pm and in that time had already been making out with this other guy. At about 12pm a group of about 20 people (her and myself included) left for a different bar. While we were walking she actually left her guy and came over to me and started grabbing me and resting her head on my shoulder. I basically told her to go away I said "Leave me alone, there's Dave. You have Dave go to him," She replied "I know, I know," in this really sad and pathetic voice and didn't move, keeping her head on my shoulder. Eventually I shrugged her off and started talking to other people. I didn't see her again for the rest of the night.

You see I would be fine if she had no interest in me. I prefer everything to be very black and white. The fact that I don't know what is going on is really pissing me off, I have no patience for this kind of thing. I am very tempted to just tell her to fuck off, but I've gotten in trouble before for being too rash. Opinions?

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Now, bring me that horizon!

If you really want to have it either black or white, with no real concern for which one it is, I would just ask her.

I know this is not the PUA way to do it, but then again, you're not trying to get her to bed, you're trying to figure out what's up.

Just ask her: "Ok, you've got me really confused here, it seems to me like you really can't make up your mind on where you want to have me, and it's starting to get on my nerves.. What's the deal?"

If you, on the other hand, do care about the outcome, I would use realities. Don't mention it at all, but simply take control when you are with her, treat her firmly as what you want her to be and don't stray from it.


- The Dice

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

lol ofc you do, but its not and it never will be.


what shes doing to you is what you should be doing to her (and to pretty much all girls you interact with but thats another discussion for another day). whatever you do, dont try to get it laid out in black and white by asking her whats going on. thats just gonna ruin any and all attraction she might have for you.

for now just continue to play her game by hitting on her sometimes and showing no interest in her (and giving interest to other girls when shes around) sometimes until eventually you two end up hanging out alone and buzzed and then fuck her brains out.

Make her take a stand but not verbally. Next time you go out with her create sexual tension and try to make out with her and keep persisting until you hit the red line. That's the only way to polarize her. Asking her verbally will just make you look weak.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"