So here we are.
I am Italian and she is from Switzerland.We also have approximately the same age.
We met each other on an island this summer,as we both had our vacations there.I meet her by luck and have a simple conversation.As the days go on, i see that there is a mutual attraction from both sides , i get IOI's quite often and i start gaming on her.
Some days after the first conversation i directly but kindly tell her that i like her and she responds that she also likes me as a man.After several days of building attraction i isolate her and kiss her looking her directly on the eyes.There is a passion moment there but due to other reasons i had to go back to my city instantly.So we exchange mobile numbers and she has no problem to share with me almost every clue about her, in a manner of showing me trust and respect.
Then after i come back and she goes back to Swiss, i email her and she responds back in a great manner, we both tell each other that we had a great time there, and as the days go on there is not even a romantic phrase that we have not shared
Problem is that almost every time i initiate contact ( i cannot hide that my heart explodes when i listen to her on the phone-how lame !!) Most of the times she responds well and some others she is quite flirty with me.But she never ever (except for 1-2 times) initiates contact which makes me feel like a fool sometimes.
So once i asked her if she would like to meet me again , she says that she would love to see me again but distance is a very bad factor for going further , even though she said that she thinks of me very often.To me she seems that she is afraid to handle the situation , even though i would have no problem to visit her.So she started freezing me a little,which made me silly anxious about it.But she still remains calm and flirty when we talk.So i got confused and without knowing what to do.I started dating 2 girls in order to avoid oneitis (i did not avoid it) and even though i got success with them it seems that i am terribly stuck on her.As a result also the situation is stuck.
Now i know that initiating contact all the time is not a wise idea when you cope with girls.I also know that i have messed up things a lot and got into oneitis.I do not think that "she is the one" but i terribly like her which seems obvious to her and damaging my value.I think that the only reason that she still copes with me, is that i had a quite alpha attitude when we met.But this is declining day by day.
So the question is : what i should do now-except for nexting her - in order to make her wanting and trying to see me again. I would appreciate a wise tactic to turn things around even if it has to do with my inner game.
What really happened here ? An i missing a point or not ?
Thanks everyone !
CHAT