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How you should behave? Well, you should be yourself, stay positive and confident and do what has worked for you in the past.
Perhaps you can be a bit more specific. Is there a specific thing that troubles you when dealing with the ladies? Or is there something specific in this situation that's throwing you off a bit?
i can smile, probably lack of arguments troubles me a lot of the times because i like philosophy and concepts and she is very down to earth and very social too, i'd like to entertain her!
Ok, I have a few suggestions there if that's what worrying you.
The more important thing to keep in mind is that you have to show her a good time, but not by being an enterteiner (a dancing monkey) but by having her constantly laugh.
1. Like you, I like to get into deep philosophical/political/social issues because that's just part of what I am. At the same time, I realize that a lot of people don't really get into this stuff, specially not at clubs where they just want to relax and have a good time. However, women want to understand and see your world and what you are into, it shows confidence as you do what you like, not what other people expect you too. Showing a women your passion is a very underutilized form of seduction.
You can still talk to her about philosophy, but make sure you aren't being a prick about it. That means being positve, being light-hearted, having the confidence to speak about this stuff with passion and showing that, and at the same time making sure it's not a one-sided conversation (Ie. she has to participate in it, it can't be just a lecture of your intelect, she has to feel that she is challenged and can take an actual role which you can then reward).
However, there is also the posibility that she won't be into that at all. If that's the case, don't panic and just move on.
I'm into politics and I tended to assume everyone would just get bored as fuck if I started talking about it, but I shed that. Today I actually had a convo over a girl about it, but by being confident about it, and being light-hearted, I could still have her laughing and be intellectually invested at the same time.
2. You also need to be light-hearted enough to be able to speak about a variety of topics that aren't just complex or deep. You need to be able to talk about whatever and still be fun. It's generally a must-do to multi-thread, that is the ability to be speaking at the same time of many subjects and topics.
Perhaps with your philosophy stuff you can create deep rapport. TylerDurden usually thinks that that works great, but it's always better to have wide and deep rapport, which means not only talking about one thing.
This will also ensure that the interaction won't die down once the topic of conversation has been exhausted.
3. Keep in mind that you can talk about whatever, and it can still be entertaining just as long as you can convey the right vibes. What's important in seduction is that you don't need to rationally convince a women to be with you, but you have to let her feel a certain way by showing you certain attributes, and those attributes can't be told or argued, they must be shown.
4. Seen as you are probably in comfort zone already (she agreed to go out with you), you could try to create rapport and conveying value by doing a psychological routine about herself. You could try doing the cube for example. That's a good way to bridge two people together who are already comfortable to some degree.
Let us know how it went either way!
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glad to be on a forum of this kind, i'll go straight to the core and see if your suggestion can help me