Folks, I ask for guidance!

I've known this beautiful babe for three years and just today her boyfriend of 4 years dumped her succulent ass. Throughout this time I have kept a fairly bright spark alive between us....hopefully I didn't misinterpret the whole thing.

Anyway now that she is single I want to make a move. Given our history, I would like to start a relationship with her, but that might be difficult since she just got out of a serious one.

So....how should I approach this? I know that I have to be the fun loving guy that will make her happy during her breakup rather than a shoulder for her to cry on....but other than that I don't know what I should do.

PS: How long do I have to wait to ask her out?

Much Love,
L

You need to change your entire perspective on this. First, you've known her for 3 years and you're just now going to make a move?! Good luck. You are most definitely in the friend-zone and it'll be very hard to get out of it. Second, you are already over invested in this girl and you are acting outcome dependent. She's just a girl.. one of many. Don't treat her any differently than any other girl you're gaming. Just invite her out to do something fun.. with or without other people around. Don't make a big deal out of it. Then, flirt with her, show her a good time, and see if you get any IOI's. If you don't, then let it drop and go game other girls.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf

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Oh no I'm not saying that I'll go crazy if I don't get her, far from it. There's always a better girl out there. I'm very practical when it comes to women.

I don't know about the friendzone...by "make a move" I meant "officially asking her out". When she was with that other dude I kept the heat up and kept getting IOIs without pause. It was clear she was into me but I've never asked her out since she had a bf. Unlucky if I did end up in the zone.

Thanks for the feedback, appreciate it.

She JUST got out of a 4-year relationship, and you already want to date her? Chances are she won't be over her ex for a while, so at best you'll be someone she hooks up with for the time being. Who knows, she might want to be single for a while before settling down again. You'll be waiting around while she may or may not even date you when she's ready.

Who knows, she might still get back with her ex. Most of the time that's what happens within the first month of a breakup, even though it is a horrible idea.

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Keep in mind he dumped her, not the other way around.

If you're cool with swooping in for something temporary, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd wait it out.

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