Had a long 1st date with a new girl I really like where I did a good job of escalating and developing an emotional connection with her. It ended with her saying something like "I'm not letting you come upstairs but you can kiss me" before I had a chance to make a move. We kissed a few times and every time she was about to get out of the car, she would say "one more" and kiss me again.

Tonight we have a date to go to a movie premier of a cop movie that will be in an overcrowded movie theater...Not very sexy. Any tips on how I can try to make this more exciting for her? I was thinking about kissing her when I picked her up to try to get a little sexual tension in the air.

This is what I would do.

First hug her and ask how her day was. Then ask what she did before she came to see you.

Now put your hands out, palms facing up and say, "grab my hands," if she hasn't already. Pull her gently close to you and hug her while looking straight into her eyes. Tell her she looks cute.

After that, move your head close to her until resting your forehead on her's lightly. Move your lips as close to her's as possible without touching them. Then move back slowly.

If she tries to kiss you, then pull away. Tease her with it and laugh. Then you can kiss her and make sure it is a good kiss. Make out with her if you know how. This is a form of flirting and she will appreciate you for it.

After that, you are free to go to the movie. Make sure to sit in the back or side seats of the movies(more privacy). Don't kiss her or anything until after the movie, unless she starts flirting and cuddling you in the movies.

If she seems like she wants to do something, while in movie, then kiss her and make out. Then when you get hard put her hand on your little weenie and watch how horny she gets

-Remember a good make out session will turn a girl on. It is even possible to get a girl to sleep with you if you can kiss her well enough.-

Anyway, that explains your question about kissing her when you see her. So yes, do it, but wait.

After you have made out with her comfortably then you should start thinking about seducing her.

The normal amount of time it takes a woman to get comfortable enough to have sex is around 6 hours(So around 5 meetings, less if you talk on the phone). The more experienced you are, then the less time it will take.

Hope to hear how it went.

Good luck.

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Suggestion: When you pick up/meet. Customary greeting hug, put your cheek next to hers, in a low sexy voice "Wow you smell great, is that Irish Spring? (slight neg) then move back her hair with your finger tips, and kiss her just below the ear! Then move her back by the shoulders, lock on her eyes, and say, "That's all you get.....for now!"

then proceed as if you've done NOTHING!

the mood will be set, and her panties DAMP!

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Great advice Mr. Jablowme,

I can totally picture myself doing that now it is just having the confidence to do it when I am in the moment. Off to the confidence part of the forum unless anyone has any quick tips when I am in that moment to go for it.

Hahaha Heywood is fine!

As far as confidence,....remember it's the same girl you already kissed! So no fear right?

A greet hug is no big deal, it's expected and common, So again...no fear

SHE will be at least twice as nervous as you (true story!) so she won't even notice if you are slightly!

AND if you do this, YOUR confidence level will be 10 times higher than anything you can find on ANY web site/blog, or book! NOTHING will work better for your confidence then having the balls to go for it! You will be a KING among mortals!

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Thanks Heywood,

The hugging part will be a piece of cake as I started our first date off with one to get the ball rolling. It is the teasing part that will be tricky. Knowing that if I can pull it off my future confidence level will rise should give me the balls to go for it!

Will update tomorrow...

I too was confused about whether or not I should kiss a girl the second time I see her right away. The answer is now I don't. Most girls go for the cheek to cheek anyway. Which is good in my opinion. Now I go for the cheek to cheek regardless.

Rebuild that attraction, connection and sexual tension, then, when you feel it, kiss her.

Went on the date last night and ended up wussing out on the kiss below the ear as when I got there she let me in the door and immediately turned around to prepare for us to leave. I think if I had been able to hug her upon arrival I could have gone for it. I immediately put it out of my head so as not to affect my confidence.

We went to the movie and shared some popcorn For most of the movie I kind of stroked her arm and she put her hand on my leg. The end of the movie was pretty depressing. She knew it was coming and ended up crying. I don't know if that was good (emotional rollercoaster) or bad (makes her sad). Anyone care to chime in on that? I think girls like tearrjerkers but don't really know if it puts them in the mood.

When we got home, she took off her seatbelt and kind of leaned up against the passenger door and I guess started giving me a shit test (not sure if this one.) She asked how many girls I had been out with on Match and if I dated more than 1 at the time. I answered her questions honestly (been out with 2 others and never more than 1 at a time, the truth) and told her she could ask me anything and as she was saying she had no more questions I kissed her passionately.

She said that maybe she would invite me up next time but she wasn't sure she wanted to keep me yet. Then 1st thing this morning she texted me "I hope you didn't take my comment too seriously about wanting to keep you yet as sometimes I say stupid shit when I'm nervous."

You have done very well Dino!
Taking a woman to a movie that puts them on a "emotional roller-coaster" VERY good idea, it's their favorite ride! (although better for at home movie). I recommend "Time Travelers wife". and a blanket!
Good K close (that'll shut her up LOL)

LMR She wanted more, but did not want to appear slutty. I think a little push/pull may have broke through this, but no big deal!


With good balance and no signs of neediness, I am confidant you will be golden on your D3

Movie at your place! or stop by to "check out your goldfish" at date end!

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I do the same as haywood.
I basicly just kiss on cheek and continue like shes a normal friend.
I learned myself to always look in the eyes, you will basicly know the right moment for a kiss if you just keep looking her in the eyes.
Usually there is a brief silence, just walk up to her as you keep looking her in the eye, give around 5 sec of kissing and say: 'Thats all you get for now' or 'i'm done with you for now'.

I basicly don't kiss right at start cause I don't see the urge in doing it.
I also don't see why you take her there if you know it's not very exciting for both of you.

Going to a movie is certainly not a 2nd date I would have planned but I had already gotten 2 free tickets to a sneak preview movie screening before our 1st date and when I mentioned the extra ticket she was down.

This is a good thread, lots of great advice here.
This is very good! just think of it this way, she felt some emotion. If she hadn't then that would have been a bad sign. It also showed that she was interested in the movie and the two of you weren't just sitting quietly in a dark room (why I hate movie dates). Also and best of all, the fact that she cried showed that she was very comfortable in your company. Incidentally it is a scientific FACT that scary movies are the best for dates, a slight feeling of fear will actually simulate the feeling of love and she will associate those feelings with you, not to mention that she will spend a lot of the movie holding onto you while you get to act tough. Next date rent a copy of 28 weeks later and invite her round to your house. Having her in your house for your first time will put you in control of your relationship ( I assume that's what you want)
There are two reasons for this, it was either a shit test or it was an awkward badly timed joke. If it was the latter then you're in luck. If she was nervous then that's a sign she likes you.
I got the impression that you thought this was bad, I'd say it's good. She is worried that she screwed up the date, therefore she wanted it to go well. All in all I'd say your in the money pal. Go nuts.

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I would MUCH prefer making her wait til the end of the second date!!!

this is what chicks dream about... the tension building up the whole time... her wondering if you will kiss her or not. Stay flirty...

Then at the end kiss her and she will melt, and you will be stuck in her head for the rest of the day.

(only do this if you have enough confidence to delay kissing her, and know for sure you will still do it at the end.)

However....

In this case, its a movie date which I think is a nightmare second date, maybe you will have to kiss her during the film... so it doesnt get awkward or boring.

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I totally agree with breaking bad here, you have to make her wonder "why is he not kissing me?"

In general I think guys have the wrong attitude about kissing. I guess you like kissing and you want to do it as soon as possible for your own pleasure. Wrong! you need to time it for the exact moment when she will find it most romantic. If this means waiting or limiting how much you kiss than so be it. Kissing is after all not the main show and after you do have sex with her kissing will almost become as meaningless as a fist bump.

Personally I barely enjoy making out. Normally I just do it to distract her while I feel her up. But if you want to have sex then it must be done and done properly. Think of it like pilot training, pilots have to spend a certain amount of hours flying in those shitty 2 person planes and simulators before the let them near the big moterfucker with 500 people in the back. Kissing and sex is the same but if you ignore what you want out of the kissing (which is as much as possible) and focus on what she wants out of the kissing (romantic as possible) then you can cut your flight hours down big time.

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Now, bring me that horizon!

We just had a text conversation and she offered to cook me dinner next week. The 1st 2 dates ended with kisses and her saying she wasn't ready to invite me up. Well date #3 will start with me already UP in more ways then one.

Thanks for everyone's help thus far!