Today I realized that I do or don't do certain things because I have this thought of "maybe this is AFC", which probably stops me from doing a bunch of things. So I'm going to list a few scenarios, and maybe you guys can tell me what the right way to handle it is.

The girls in these scenarios are girls I've already opened and talked to, so this is more of a question on mid-game, I guess.

1. Classroom game. There are two times to talk to a girl: before and after class. I sometimes try to weasel my way into a conversation with her by conveniently timing it so we walk out the door at the same time, and then start talking to her on the way out. Is this AFC for following her like a child following his mother around the supermarket? Or is it alpha for stepping up and talking to her?

2. Facebook chat. I feel like there SHOULD be a balance of her initiating conversations vs. me initiating conversations. But at the end of the day, if I don't initiate, we just won't talk. If I am constantly initiating conversations, does this make me look like a needy bitch who needs his ego satisfied, or like an alpha who takes control and goes for what he wants?

3. The cafeteria at school (college). Pretty much the same as above. If she's sitting with her friends, it can sometimes be difficult to go over and talk to her without looking stupid, especially if I have a hard time "infiltrating" the set she's in.

These are all basically the same question. The classroom one is the one I most need to figure out, as it's something I deal with every day.