Hey guys,

So this is a dumb question, but it is a question i would really appreciate an answer. Often I find myself in situations where i just dont want to see my girlfriend and I was wondering what i should say to her in those situations (usually i just end up seeing her, but im trying to change that).

Why i dont want to see her come from many reasons, but mainly due to me feeling neglected by her. in the current case for example, she was very busy for the past 2 weeks (we knew this would happen). But knowing that she's busy, i was still very upset with how little care she gave to me. i didnt say anything or get angry, but i am upset. i felt like the lowest of her priorities

anyways, shes coming back to town today and i will see her for a bit. but i know she'll want to hang out tomorrow or other days during the week, but i really dont want to. its a bit of me trying to be more distant, but also if i see her, we would most likely just end up fighting. but yeah, i just dont know what to say to her. i want to say "nah, im not feeling it tonight" but she'll want an explanation, which i wont have. i can always lie and say im either going out or working late, but i dont feel like lying. oh, and of course i COULD go out for real, but i just moved to my current town so i really dont know many people that i can hit up at a moments notice

We've been dating for about 8 months. so yeah, any help please. should i suck it up and see her? its not as if she did anything wrong, i just felt she could do better. lol let me know if i make no sense

Honestly, if she's genuinely busy - with work, school etc - you shouldn't be that mad about it. My girlfriend did that for the last month before I broke up with her and it PISSED me off. I would be like "What the fuck I'm working 50 hours a week to pay for college and going to school and you're mad I don't have a lot of time for you?" I'm not sure if the reasons are similar, but if its legitimate don't be mad.

On the other hand if she seems to be blowing you off then assert yourself. Tell her straight up " I feel like you're neglecting me." If she takes it the wrong way you can always salvage it. That's the beauty with women (at least from my personal experience), there's always time to change how they feel Unless you fuck up bad of course.

Why do you guys fight? People have busy lives - a relationship should be a positive, beneficial thing for both parties. It's meant as a crutch, someone to lean on and love, not as extra stress, even though that's what tends to happen so much. Think about why you fight, if the reasons and really dumb then just agree with her - you don't always have to be right.

Again, on the other hand, if you guys always fight and it is never resolved, it might be time to give an ultimatum or end it.

And I'm a big fan of sex, sex, sex. If things are going bad have GREAT SEX. It really works fucking wonders!! Trust me you'll see. Get her in the mood, and have awesome, amazing, spectacular sex. It'll change everything for at least a day.

Today I was talking to a very, very attractive girl who I'm friends with and hooked up with a while back and she specifically told me "When we don't have sex for a couple days I feel anxious and tense like uhhhhh I can't describe it but sex always makes it better." Those were pretty much her exact words. (We as in her and her boyfriend - it's not the girl i posted the question about either:).

So ya, suck it up and see her and have awesome sex to resolve conflict. If nothing seems to work - tell her your feelings, maybe you guys are just getting sick of one another? You seem to be at the point where you get mad at little things (I've been there.)

If she was some sexyass girl you were trying to bang and she was too busy for a week or 2 but then wanted to hangout would you be mad? Nope, probably be elated. Think about it that way.

Goodluck mate! Hope something I said helped, had to rush it sorry.