Will she lose interest? This chick I've been seeing has liked me for awhile.

I give her oral and finger her to try to get her to come, but she stops me from fingering her after awhile and when giving the oral she either stops me for intercourse OR her legs squeeze my head so hard that I can't even deliver (she is moaning hardcore during both tho). I tell her I want to make her come from oral but she isn't uber enthusiastic.

We have had intercourse twice, in which both times I had a bit of trouble getting it up and then lasted a very short time.

I told her I want to have good sex with her, she said "what if we can't, just kidding"/I'm not good with it either/I took one for the team twice jokingly

But also, she said we will find a way


If we are talking relationship here, are my chances shot to hell? Or can I work on this with her?

There is no reason why she wouldn't want you to make her orgasm. My guess would be that you're just not doing it right, which is not a bad thing since it can be perfected.

I gave this topic a lot of attention when I was younger so I've read way too much about it.

Find a pdf of a book called "She comes first". Give it a quick glance. It will help you understand female anatomy and how to push the right buttons WITHOUT using your dick.

Always treat fingering and cunnilingus as sex. Use it before intercourse. While you're fucking her, pull out and use it again. Take breaks and spice it up. This should give you more time and it feels better for her. I think women actually orgasm in about a 5:1 ratio in fingering/cunnilingus vs. intercourse. Either way, you should make her cum without using your dick. Never failed me at all. Once she cums once, keep it up and she will shortly cum again and again. After this, it doesn't matter what you do.

Another important thing is your mindset. You have to create a representation of yourself in your subconscious that you're way too fucking good at sex for your own good. You need to get confident in your sexual ability. This will come (no pun intended). After this, you will last longer and be happier about your sex life.

And fuck her for giving you shit. Fucking get good and lay it on her so she shuts her fucking mouth.

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My advice is to practice on your own, use the start and stop method when your jerkin it.

kegel exercises as well will help.

and lastly go pick up some herbal male enhancment supplements or get your hands on viagra, take 1/3 of the pill or half when but only when you feel your really need it.

We all have toubles from time to time man lol sometimes I last for hours without cuming, other times I blow in a minute....I think most men are like this.

I pride my self in the sex deparment, it takes time to great in bed but even the best have bad days.

Think of sex like sports, when Tim Brady throws 4 interceptions in a game and stinks it up people say "thats ok tom, we know your amazing its just a bad day". When alex smith throws 4 interceptions in a game people say "you fucking suck! put in someone eles!" haha

This is how your gf will see it, If sex is really good most of the time and you have a bad day she wont hold it against you, but if sex is bad all the time unforchantly it will bother her.

Yes it sucks! but the good thing is that you can always improve!

In regards to not doing it right: I have made my previous girlfriend come quite fast on every occasion by fingering her like I did with this one. It's quite simple really! Not sure why this one pulls me out of it, as she is moaning the whole time.

She did say she is difficult to come. I guess this varies from girl to girl like anything else, maybe she prefers a different style.

It's like....without letting me make you come with my fingers and suffocating me with your legs when doing oral, she's forcing me to make intercourse my only means of her pleasure. Since I've been having a bit of trouble staying hard and shit, I can't really do the intercourse, pull out and finger, intercourse thing because it takes us awhile to get my dick inside of her to begin with and she loses patience.

You are inside your own head...My advice is to take her! I mean really take her as if you are a Man and she is the object you are going to freaking destroy! Do not think of her having an orgasm, dont even care if she will or not, just fuck her like you intend to break her in half! Think about "I want to hurt this girl" while you are fucking her, not "I hope SHE is enjoying this". I know a lot of girls that do not like to cum from oral because they are major squirters and are embarrased by it.

Caveman fuck her!

Peace...

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What just happened!? This might not be a big deal but just hang out with the chick again:

Went to dinner had a great time, then back to my place. Said she had to leave soon after a bit of cuddling/making out. Was fingering her and she pulled my hand away after a ton of moaning ect AGAIN. I asked her why she did that, how does she like it, and if she squirts and that I liked that anyway, ect. She said "It felt good exactly what you are doing...it just takes awhile and I'm not patient enough with myself"

So before she went home she put my hand to her vagina again and I told her she was wet. She said she wanted me. I said I want to make you come first. I start fingering again, she makes good noises again, and AGAIN pulls my hand away. She said she had to go after a bit more making out, she kissed my dick goodbye, got it hard, then said she was sorry to leave me sexually frustrated. I said you are too and gave her a wink, and she said yeah and made a joke but not mean spirited. We proceeded to talk about next plans, and that was it. We had

Did she just give me LMR, even though we've had sex before? Clearly she wants sex with me still if she is saying she wants me.

Focus on meeting her again. If she does meet up LMR means nothing.

Onto the issue. My current girl right now had/has this exact same problem. Literally.

We have a good connection and our first time together was pretty bad mainly because I couldn't get it up for a while. When I did I came quite quickly.

However after that all good. She didn't come though. I talked about it and she said she doesn't come easily. In fact no guy ever made her come. I told her I will make her come. The next time I came to her place I threw her on the bed and fingered and licked he shit out of her. She came and I was the first guy to ever make her come and she is now pretty fuckong attached.

However she said she doesn't like it when I go down on her if she hasn't showered. It's an issue as I really wanna make her come more. But this could be a reason. She says she loves watching me come more than her coming herself.

I advise you to read the Sex God Method. It's what I'm reading right now and it helped me with this girl. Dominate in the bedroom and also hold a connection at time while fucking. Look deep into her eyes and tell her that you like to be inside her. Psychologically turn her on. When fingering and licking her do not stop before she stops you. Go faster and harder. Arm hurt? Shut up and keep going. Faster and harder still.

So how many times will someone over 30 last a minute in intercourse before finally getting it?

Not sure man...everyone is different. I would say practice makes perfect, and if that does not work then talk to your doctor.

I think its half mental, and half physical...to be honest most guys lie about how long they last, and most girl lie about having an orgasm most of the guys in here probably are not half as good as they think they are haha