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Warped, this makes sense overall. But what would be your steps in escalation? What would be your first couple touches if not shoulder and arm and safe things like that?
I cant tell you because each interaction is different. I'm not some creepy little dude that preplans everything. "Ok, I'm gonna go say hi and touch her elbow at the same time!"
I don't work like that. Plus, you don't need some sorta "safe touches" at all. An example from not to long ago:
Was in a night club having fun with my boys when I seen a cutie at the other end of the bar just kinda talking with her two girl friends and looking bored. I walked up, put my right hand on her side and leaned in really close to say something about her drink. I then chit chatted with her and her friends for a few minutes. Then put my arm around her and started talking to just her, then transitioned into hand holding.
Notice I didn't do any gay thumb wars or creepy elbow touches. I touched her like a confident man. Whats just as important as the touches was two other things: my intense eye contact and proximity (me being very close to her physically).