Looks, Looks, Looks, my word... you sound like I did when I was 17 year old virgin! YOU ARE NOT A WOMAN. THEY ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT.

Everyone is telling you it's confidence and grooming that matters, not your looks. And that's what the Newbie Mission is for - getting confidence just saying hi to random women.

By the time I found pickup, I didn't really need the newbie mission - years of working in an Emergency Room taught me how to be sociable to people. But realize women are just that - people. Something I do to reduce conversation and social anxiety is just randomly strike up conversations with people when I see an opportunity. If it's a stranger, and a thought comes to mind, I just speak - if I say something completely retarded, no harm done. But if I strike up a conversation, great! Either way, I'll learn something and get better.

I have re-read all those replies to my post, and took a look at myself yesterday. I mentioned that I am not good looking enough. Now, I realize that I was making a BULLSHIT excuse for myself. I realized that what others said were true. I literally have ZERO confidence in myself. I am fine when talking or touching girls, but my innergame stinks. I may not have the body or the height like other guys, but I noticed that when I feel a sudden adrenalene rush that I am somehow better than those around me, (I am not sure if this is confidence or not), I truly overlook my height problem. Those things I had been nagging about totally goes away. I mean, with right confidence, I can still fuck girls who are my height or taller. This sounds like a dumb ass shit, but, I had been under a depression due to my body image, for a year. So, my question to all of you guys, is how do I become more confident? How do I build confidence? I will do anything thats possible under my realm. Someone also mentioned that I should go fuck fat chicks. As a virgin, I don't think I am getting sex anytime sooner. Because, my first time with a girl will suck. So, where do I get fat girls to fuck? Lastly, how do I build a life without women, that will make me truly happy?

Wouldn't say fat chicks necessarily, just ones who are at a level where you have a good chance with your current level of game. When you go to a club or a bar and there's a group of girls talk to the one who clearly gets the least attention from men rather than the hottest one. They'll be more receptive to you practicing game on them and will be easier to fuck. Once you become confident picking up lower status girls you can then move up the food chain. Right now the key is practicing and the best girls to practice on are the ones who really need attention to feel good about themselves. Basically the female versions of yourself. You will become comfortable and once this happens you will talk to more girls and have more success as you learn what works and what doesn't.

Good luck!

It does not seem you want to be successful! You are convincing yourself that you will fail before you actually beleive in yourself an really try. You will fail A LOT, just learn from your mistakes and move forward.


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Well, get out there and start talking to girls - its a long road and you will no doubt fail many times along the way (I do), but that shouldn't stop you. Don't get down about every little knock back. Keep positive. Get yourself a strong mind set.

And if you are that unhappy about your body, why not start working out? If you are not happy with your apperance work on it. Work out, look at your style and chage it. Get some new clothes. New haircut etc etc. These things alone can give you a little lift.

Alright dude, I just read your OP.

Good on you for beginning this. Now listen. College game and pickup are two different things. The first relies heavily on social circle stuff, and unless you are truly an alpha male or have that drive to put in the effort to become the alpha male of a group, it will be a little more difficult. However, that doesn't mean you can't get any. I myself am going into college this year. We'll see how it turns out.

As for pickup - it's different. It's more of a personal game. You don't actually have to be that star of the club. You just have to be honest and direct and unapologetic. Non reactive. The principles of inner game.

You said you have improved. Good. Now it's time to take it up a notch. I think this is about your balls man. Grow some.

Read 60 Years of Challenge. Read The Attraction Code. Internalize those principles. You know what you want, that's great. Many don't. I didn't for a while. Now that I do I have more clarity.

Next go for what you want. Begin the screening process. Talk to girls. Do they fit you?

Have fun when you go out.

I have just recently got my first sort of gf in my life and im 20. Unfortunately it will be short-lived as I'm going to London in a week.

This takes time, but it will happen. This whole will I ever??? thing is not doing you any good. It WILL happen. Look around you, ugly ass guys who have no game get a gf. You will too. You can increase your chances by applying key principles and learning from your mistakes. 99% of guys don't do this. They just wander through life and are happy when they get lucky to have an average gf. Don't settle for that.

So as I said, read up on stuff. go out and approach. At the same time try to become more social in your college. Do shit. Become a little more outgoing. Have balls to tell girls they're attractive. If they give you shit, don't react. Either keep at it or move on. Persistence is sexy. Neediness isn't. If you adopt the mentality of "I don't need you, I can get another chick" then you will increase your chance of getting with that girl. And if you don't, guess what, it doesn't matter because there will be others.

Read. Apply. How do you build confidence? It is a circular system. You are confident and you get girls. You get girls which makes you more confident. In the beginning you amy have to kick yourself in the ass a little and constantly tell yourself "I can do this" and after a few results you will actually believe it. Because guess what, you can do this. This isn't some motivation shit. No. You actually can. It takes work. There is the pain period. Where your "failures" will hurt you and you will get demoralized. You are going through this right now. But there will be successes, and yes they are worth it.

But most of all: This. Takes. Time. I went through several girls this year, many of whom I didn't fuck or who didn't turn into a gf. Guess what. It hurt. But I pushed through. Now I have a girl who really likes me, and she put the label on us, which I don't really mind at all. This truly takes time. You will fuck girls and then they will bail. Then you will bail. Then you will have a thing going, but nothing more. Then maybe a fuck-buddy or someone you well...don't really want to be in a relationship period. And you will think "WHY CAN'T I GET A GF!" But guess what you have progressed a shit-load and that will keep you going. And then there will be that one girl. Good luck.