Have you ever browsed through these forums and noticed posts and replies giving people "advice" that was just utter garbage, in tested and frankly only ever thought up in a dark lonely room? I too have posted replies like this, I am guilty. Over the past week or so of working with my friend and wingman Andy, I have discovered that I was a keyboard warrior, someone who talks a good game but when it comes time to act I would chicken out. Since making this discovery I have changed my attitude towards game as a whole. I no longer feel the need to impress anyone, least of all guys on a forum I'm never going to meet. I take my validation from me now, not from an outside source. I am no longer a keyboard warrior. My name is Carl and I am an rafc! I will be pua, I will not fail because it's impossible to fail at this. There are only lessons to be learned! I will be better, I will be stronger as a person and I will develop solid game. Not by hiding in my room and playing the role of the keyboard warrior, but by going into the field and working for it! I'm not saying I won't be asking advice, and I'm not telling anyone else not to. I am saying that before you come on here and take every peice of advice you recieve to heart, try and test ideas in field, it's the only way to improve!

Who knows maybe I'll see you out there sometime



Carl

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best of luck man!

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Yeah, I was never someone with horrible game but when I first started writing a thread on here (now at 82k hits) everyone was asking me to get started in the marketing aspect but it simply was not me. Plus I felt I was a keyboard warrior, I knew a lot and I got chicks but I simply didn't feel I was some guy that should be offering to teach body language on courtship when I wasn't some epic guy.

At some point I realized that I really am that guy but I just wasn't using some of this stuff. Eventually I got to the point of extremely high confidence and solid abilities which is why I now give out a lot more advice than I used to. You will get past it, the most important thing to remember is that having the knowledge is only half the battle using it is the most important part.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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I totally agree. I think there is way to much focus on canned material and planning routines.

It's great to have some solid stock material but the most important skills. Communication, Body Language, Kino Escalation all of these can only be learned in field.

The first brick wall that almost eveyone hits is AA. Canned material and routines are great for this. Combined with the three second rule people break past this. Which is great!

I think though that the next brick wall rafcs hit is being victims of their own success. I've been there. It feels amazing when you break through the AA wall. If you just had a few more routines, better DHV stories, if you just had the right look. So you spend more and more time planning and tuning, getting more and more elaborate. And so is born the KJ.

The key to getting past this is to stop caring about failure. The only way to find success is to fail. The only way to get better is practice. Complex routines that only work in specific situations aren't really that useful. Having a better understanding of women, people in general and yourself...that's the next step.

hey guys, thanks for the replies, im glad people have taken the time to read this. I think its something people needed to hear. I would like to clarify that i dont think all the advice given on these forums is bad. Some of the advice is in fact pure genius, (poeticlyskuac your body language series for example). I think there are lots of people genuinely trying to help each other too. I do think that more work needs to be done in field from the people requesting the advice, that way they are more likely to discover their own solutions and methods. In the last week alone, without posting i have managed to over come almost all of my major sticking points, and i am so much more confident when im running game

who knows, nopw im feeling this way i may actually be around more again

Carl

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I agree with a lot of what you're saying. When I first started learning PUA it kinda of screwed up my game in a lot of ways due to the famous PUA's suggesting these canned approaches are dynamite. I started walking over to hot girls with these opinion openers and lines expecting to get laid and conversations always fizzled out and I had to often do the walk of shame. These days I barely use any of this material as everything flows naturally thanks to guys like AFC Adam and Gambler who teach natural game which fits in with behaving like a normal human being rather than a pickup machine. Learning the canned stuff was great as an AFC with no confidence or game but when you get to a certain level you can pickup girls with your body language and attitude more than with routines and lines. Think all of us go through phases especially initially when we think we have far more game than we really do. It's easy to read books or watch videos and learn theory but to actually develop real game takes a lot of practice and effort.