Hi all

i met this lady at a salsa club...i she was new and couldnt dance so i thought her ...we had fun and shes been dancing with me only ever since...ok heres the thing...im a nice guy...u know the type that finishes last...i know that ..and have tried to step up my game ..but for some reasons i still suck at getting laid...i have hot lady friends ...im kinda shy wen im in a new enviroment but i am funny...so i have been told many times...ok so with her i decided to do somfin different...as in i tried to be a lil more sexual with her..we dance yes..i have access to her body n all...we txt n all that..n she was kinda pressuring me for my age...i told her my age..n she kinda changed from then on...she is 6 yrs older than i am ..and i realised that anytime i flirt with her on BBM she just goes offline ..and return another day acting like she never saw wat i wrote..so i kinda zoned out ..jus so it doesnt look like i got nothing to do...ok..so we danced a couple of times n there was this night i dropped her home...somfin was tell me to go for the kiss but i just didnt... ...i got home n spoke to her on the fone ..she thanked me fora greatn ight n all that..but i think i sed somfin i shouldnt have...i told her that i was tempted to kiss her that night...n kinda joked around it...we talked forawhile n sed good nite...i think that made her change ..since then..shes been funny...i asked her if she was seeing someone she sed ..''kinda'' and i sed '''kinda isnt saying much and i take it as a yes goodnite''...n she sed then i shuld take it as a yes...the next mornin she texted me early asking how i was n how was my mood ...cos i had sed i wasnt goin to salsa the night b4 bcos i wanted to stay home n watch a movie....i replied that i wasnt a moody person...n just didnt feel like dancing ....well i kept flirting with her....and i didnt initiate the conversation..she sends me a message every morning asking how i was....and i reply...ok so i asked her out for a drink ..and she sed i wont be seeing her on non salsa days....****...and if we can be just friends cos nothing is gonna happen other than friendship...i stopped replying..cos its just wat i ddnt want to happen ..that was happening...she sed she would stop dancing salsa if i sed no to friendship...n blah blah...i just tut about it n sed its ok...friendship is a good thing...normally i'll just tell them no...i have enuff friends as it is....anyways..that the problem...she hugs me very tight..as in im not imaginin it...her friend thinks there is somfin between us...but the truth is ...i like her..n i have told her that...i wanna get to know her...but she doesnt seem to want that...wat do u suggest i do?....

Get the fuck out!


LJBF

Abbreviation for "Lets Just Be Friends". Used mostly by women to indicate that they don't want a romantic relationship, but don't mind receiving attention from a guy that wants to be more than friends.

Ex;
He thought she was hot, but she LJBF'd him so he is out of luck.


Its a phenomena where the girl you have feelings for, strips you down to the lowest form in the chain of life, and then either gets with your friend or someone whose lesser than you. this situation is almost the closest thing to a black hole, once your in it, unless you act swiftly you will never have a chance to get out.


Run like the wind!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

It sounds to me like she feels you're too young for her and just isn't interested. If she wasn't responding to your flirting you definitely shouldn't have gone for the kiss or told her that you wanted to, since it'd just make things awkward. She's made it clear she doesn't want anything other than friendship, so there's really nothing else you can do other than move on.

Tough Love Time! First off, be a fucking MAN and let your feelings for her go. Drop her like a rock and keep living your life, go to Salsa like nothing is the matter but don't dance with her, find another chick to dance with and do your thing.

Once you have enetered the LJBF zone you are done! She will not date you as long as you are her friend, you need to leave her cold, let her lose you and then in a few months (6-8) you can reinitiate contact and try to game her.

Until you are willing to lose, you can never win!

Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

So it means all is lost??..but wouldnt it be cruel to stop dancing with her?...ok i think i'll just hand her off to someone else to dance with..but i do enjoy our dance ...would keeping it strictly salsa..and not replying to her bbm or SPAM messages be kool?... and she told me she only dates older men...guess u are right aboutthe age being the problem..but thats so dumb..lol..ive dated older women all my life....i justgot out a relationship ..so i was only lookin to get to know her n both have some fun....thanks for your advice tho...sometimes u need a third eye to really see wat ur eyes cannot

In this case age does not have anything to do with it. She sees you as a chump who will dance with her all night ling and nothing more! She will let you stick around as long as you like to. Here is a hint, FUCK her feelings in this matter and worry about YOUR feelings and well being!

If she is not fucking you or paying your bills, then she is not worth your time.

You need to work on some inner game bro.


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Get another dance partner of an opposite appearance to your current one and tell your LJB friend how attractive/passionate,sexual your new partner is. A bit of rivalry works wonders as now you're preselected she may get jealous. Or just phase her out of your life if you're inner game is up to it.

Thanks @crypto and Melodical....my inner game is up to it...and i do actually wanna move on as im not clingy or anything...i just came out of a bad relationship so..i dont really worship women like i did back in the day...i just wish i stop ending up being someones friend..it makes me mad..lol..like really im not fuckable?..lmao...anyways i think i'll just tell her this friendship thing aint working for me... n im not comfortable being around her wen she doesnt think i deserve more...but im saving that forwen she gets used to me so she'll try n make it up to me ...it worked with 1 girl 1 time ...women ar just funny creatures..

Do not tell her fucking anything. Is she your boss? NO!

Why give up dancing because of her? fuck that!

Women love to be in our arms and dance with us so go and dance with other girls and game them. Get hotter ones in your arms.

She her reaction. Not what she says Bullshit but how she reacts and what she does.

At the end of the day if she does not react and want to fuck you then there are lots of other girls who will want you especially if you can dance reasonably well.

You are the prize. Act like it. Shut her down with your actions not explanations and if she comes running nail her!

Good luck.

hmm...interesting...i am never giving up dancing bcos of her..just saying she would wanna dance with me..i cant just be a robot n ignore her....as we speak i have ignored her messages....cos its pissing me off the more i talk to her...she wasnt that serious with the ljbf thing....n that with time she'd come around since its like 3 weeks now...i tried to build rapport fast so i dont end up there...she knows wat i want..i called her bluff but seems shes wallowing in my foolishness to accept the friendship...im ready to cut the bond ..i'll just dance once with her n look for a guy n ask him if he cares to dance with her...then go look for another girl to dance with

Ok so i stoppd texting this girl n broke all communications since saturday ...well i ignored her since riday wen she asked how i was doing n blah blah..never replied then saturday evening i called to ask her if she was coming to salsa..she sed no n blah blah blah...(too much excuses thats y i cant stand her)...any ways today ........''she sent a text asking how i am n how its been a long time n if im upset with her'' ....i dunno how i shuld reply this ..should i tell her i cant do the friendship thing??..or just ignore the text??

DUDE! did you listen to Crypto & James?

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain!

Let her go, or be BLUNT, reply with: "Y ru DTF?"

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Don't igonore her at Salsa, just don't dance with only her. It is not your job to find her another guy to dance with! I mean for God's sake, why would you introduce her to the competition!?! Just dance with her like usual, and then next dance dance with another girl.

As far as ignoring her texts, you have set a bad precident by always talking/texting with her from the begenning, so now dropping her cold is the only option. So break as much contact as possible while away from the dance place. She has her own life, and you need to do the same!


Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

"You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain!"

I am adding this to my Sig (All credit your way Heywood)

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

so guys should i ignore the text saying ..'''Hi havnt heard from u in a while are you upset with me'''

i know i screwed up...and i wont dance with only her anymore..