met this girl on a vacation. unfortunately i was not able to sex close even though we slept together for 2 nights and did everything but sex. we both live in different countries so she was telling me i was only seeing her to get sex and that i would forget about her when i left. I really like her and i can tell she she likes me, we talk a lot, etc (we're both back to our countries). But during the conversations she says stuff like i don't want to change your plans (i'm thinking of moving to her city after a bit), that we're just friends and she'll help me find a girl better than her, none of needs this relationship etc. How do I deal with these shit tests? Thanks

stop being so damn passive and express yourself, who cares what she wants, let her know what you want

dis-agree with her, don't be her little yes mam gay friend

she says you just want sex, you say ''absolutely, sex is awesome, are you saying that's wrong?''

you stay honest, don't you dare try to hide your intentions, there is nothing wrong with having a dick, don't let her make you feel other wise

sex is natural and everyone wants to feel loved and have sex, she is no different, don't buy into the bullshit she tries to sell you, sex is no big deal, you get to the bottom of why she is being weird, instead of mistaking her weirdness for you being weird

she is not right, she merely has her own opinion, you obviously don't agree with her, why do you let her get away with that shit without challenging her opinions? if you don't agree

you don't see her as a friend, yet you allow her to catagorize you as one?, why do you accept this behavior and not tell her how you see it?

her: ''we're just friends and I'll help you find a better girl then me''
you: ''no, we're not just friends, maybe you think that way, but I like you, not some other girl that you know, we can't just be mutual friends because I don't feel that way''
you either show her with ^ your words

or you agree with her, and show her with your actions, you meet her and you touch her, you get close, you kiss her, you act like nothing is wrong with that, and that is just how you feel

you dis the fuck agree with her, and stop being all afraid of what she thinks, be honest about how you feel, impose your frame, dictate what the meaning is between the two of you, if she doesn't like it, then she can go flick the bean or what ever, there are other girls out there who will gladly take you up on it if she won't, and she can have one less guy in her life, her loss

the rationale goes like this

a shit test, is a ''congruence test'', she wants to see what you are congruent with, who are you really?, what do you really want?, what is really true to you?

you walk up to a girl and say, ''I like you''

she wants to test congruence to you liking her, so she says, ''I don't like you''

how do you show her congruence past that point, walking away?, appologising?, taking back your comment?, getting mad at her?, getting sad and depressed about it? getting defensive?

fuck no, you look her dead in the eye and say, ''changes nothing, still like you, even if you are rude''

this ^ is you using your words to stay congruent

or you just don't say a damn word, and keep talking to her as if she said nothing, still showing her with your ACTIONS that you like her, still being happy around her, still treating her like you like her

^ this is congruence, this is you believing in yourself and being sure of yourself, reguardless of what she thinks

how can you show her you are true?, how can you show her you are certain of what you are saying?, she challenges you, you don't change your mind, you don't need her, but you are as you are, she can't change that, if you like her, some stupid arbitrary thing won't change that, if you hate girls that are rude, and she is rude, you will dismiss her, no appology will change that you don't like that, she only will get as many chances as you give, but if you truly won't put up with something, then don't put up with it, her loss, not yours

don't stand passively by and just let girls walk all over you telling you what is what, you express yourself, and speak your mind, you tell her how you feel, and if she doesn't like it, too bad, she shouldn't be around you then, who cares, there are a billion other girls in the world

Thanks for the reply. I tried to keep the post short so didn't include some of the information. I already told her that being friends is not an option and that I am a man who has needs and won't apologize that I want to have sex with her. I'm just thinking of the strategy on how do deal her shit tests. Should I just ignore them or should I be bold and say "you'll be mine. get used to it". I just don't want to make it seem like I'm the only one fighting for our relationship. Although I know girls find it sexy when a man fights for her. Thanks again.

just stay true to yourself, and if she is not interested when you are being congruent, then you are not meant to be with her

absolutely 0 reaction to her, 100% what you want, lead, don't try to follow her to gain her favour, what you want, not what she wants

and be willing to just let her go and move on if it's not working out, don't waste your time on girls that don't suit you