Hi, guys,

Nice to know you all. It's a great place here. I'm orginally from Uruguay. Really liked this forum. And I'd a like a little advice, please.


So. Friday, I (24 years old) had a great time with this beautiful girl (20 years old) at a party and we have common relatives (she's not directly related to me). We had met before, but never really talked a lot. I know her mother and pretty much every parent (who knows my family) who have girls dream of me having something serious with their daughters (i'm a good guy, too nice BTW, polite and women do think i'm good looking).

So, knowing that. I went to this party (there were multiple relatives there, but also a lot of strangers). And I talked to her a lot, we had a really great time. I invited her to dance with me, we laughed a lot. I really thought I could have kissed there, but did not want to rush things and felt she might be embarrassed. So, I had to leave earlier to take my parents home (it was a long drive) and I asked her phone number for us to arrange a date in the future, she gave it to me (offered her second number as well).

The next day, I'm in my friends bachelor's party (stayed there all day). Before leaving home, I texted her, making a little joke about the party and asking how it was the rest of it. I left for the party, but my forgot my cell at home. I came back drunk late at night and read hear reply. She responded in a very nice way and even said that nothing was better than me at the party. I did not reply, because I did not want to write a text drunk and f*** things up.

Sunday, I woke up with a hang over. Around 6 pm, I called her to talk about the text and other things to prepare for arranging a date in a call monday or tuesday.
But she did not anwser her phone. I did not do anything. Maybe she was just busy (no updates on her FB).

Today, I called again around 10 am (she is usually free at this time of the day). And again she did not awnser or called me back (still no updates on her FB).

Since I have a little pride left, I decided not to call her again (i called her twice with no anwsers already) untill she contacts me. But here is the thing, later this week there will be a birthday party of her aunt and I was invited already by the host. I know she will be there. If she does not contact me at all, what should I do? Try to talk to her like nothing has happenned, just say Hi and ignore her all night or talk honestly with her about the calls and why I did not reply her text at the same day?

Any advice is good advice.

Thanks.

Don't make much of it, see her at the party and act like nothing has happened. At the party set up the date there, it's much better in person because you can get a more authentic response.

Also her phone could have easily been misplaced, lost charger, etc...

Thanks for the reply. Do you agree that I should not text or call her until the party (it's thursday BTW) ?

yep

What I don't get is why would she show some much interest in her text and then ignore my calls the very next 2 days...

She might be scared to talk on the phone or any other of the multiple possibilities. Chill it, the world is yours for the taking she wants your cock. Simple as.

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Thanks a lot, TonyKing. Yep, I will try thursday not being a whining pussy. Just talking to her like nothing hapenned. And If I feel she really wants something, I will ask her on a date in the weekend.

Great news, my friends.

Patience is indeed a virtue. She texted me tonight saying that the day has been pretty busy and that yesterday she was at a bridesmaid and could not answer.

It is already late where I am and since:

a) she said she was busy all day (she must be tired)
b) I did not want to call again right away and dispaly more needyness;

I send a text 20 minutes later making a joke and saying that we will talk tommorow. Kiss. Good night. end.

I will call her tommorow night. Do you guys think I should ask her to go out wednesday or just wait for her aunt's party thursday?

Thanks, Tony. You're the man!

So thursday, everything went great, we got along. We stayed in a table with only couples. Laughed and talked all night. She held my hand at times. I tried to talk for the kiss, but she said she would be too embarrassed with her relatives there. So we set up a date for friday. She dialed me friday afternoon saying she was very sorry, but she had to go on a trip with her parents. I said: fine, no problem.

Monday she's back and we are texting back and forth and I said she owes me a date. And she said she was in debt indeed. And I said you weren't, you are. And she said you are absolutely right, let me say it right, I am in debt with you. Then I asked her to go dinner on wenesday on the place we had talked about. She said she will check it properly so there would be not mistakes again and then she would let me now.
So, it's already thursday and she did not even text me. I have not called or texted her since thursday. Should I just continue not to call her again? And Am I crazy for thinking she was sending me IOI's with the being in debt thing? Help!

From reading all your post it is clear that this girl really likes you. You also share plenty of friends. You have a lot of things working in your favour, despite this though it seems as if you are getting too stressed about the whole situation. Take a step back, breathe and try to look at things from the 3rd person.

I would avoid calling or texting her too much. If you come across as needy then you will scare her off. Try a new approach, if she doesn't answer then "punish" her. Don't call for a few days. She will think it's her fault and will likely call you.

The IOI's were probably genuine, she likes you. Accept it! But I have noticed that you haven't kissed her yet.
I'm guessing you actually asked to kiss her. I've never asked a girl to kiss me in my life. If it feels right then it usually just happens. I also HATE kissing in public, and would never do it in front of relations or even my mates. The next time you feel like kissing her try this. Gently take her hand and say nothing just give her a warm smile and lead her away from where you were sitting. Again do this in silence, it will raise the tension. Once you have her in a good spot take her by the hips and pull her close to you, break your silence with a complement. ("I'm really glad I saw you again," "You look great tonight." It doesn't matter what you say, just say it like you mean it.) She may laugh, or joke in an attempt to diffuse the tension but ignore her. Tension is your friend. Let the moment drag for a few seconds and then kiss.

This has never failed for me, and the kiss is always amazing. Do this and she will be your girlfriend. The tension and your silence will make the whole thing feel passionate, deep and very physical. The most important thing though is what you do next. Keep the kiss short then bring her back to where you had been sitting before hand. Chat to her normally and basically pretend like the whole thing never happened. The sudden drop in tension might upset her but it will leave her wanting more.

Please use this and let me know what happens! I'm invested in this story now!

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Thanks for the reply. I did not ask for the kiss. I just smiled at her and kind of leaned toward her to say something and then kiss, but then she said she would be too embarassed to do antyhing there.

This is a great advice for the kiss indeed. Thanks. But my problem now is how and when I should talk to her again (of if I should initiate the chat again at all).

I am indeed too stressed because I really like this girl. But I already did the punishing thing. I have not talked or texted her since monday and she still hasn't called me or texted me back at all. That's the biggest reason why I don't know what to do now. Like you said, she clearly has giving me indications that she likes me. I'm confused as hell.

Ok first, the kiss. You now know she has a hang up about kissing in public. If you can anticipate what she will do then you have it.

As for when you should contact her, is there a time soon enough that you know you will SEE her again. Like at another party or family thing?

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"As for when you should contact her, is there a time soon enough that you know you will SEE her again. Like at another party or family thing?"

No. No family party at all in the next weeks. At least I have not heard anything yet.

Hmmm, this is becoming tricky. I have one more question, have you only ever met up with her at these family gatherings?

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