Hi,

I'm a 21 year old student just going into the working world. The problem i'm having at the moment is at university girls seemed to be a lot easier to just dance with and pick up with no real technique or conversation needed, plus very rarely I would consider them to be of a choice i'd make if sober. None of these conquests lasted more than a night.

However girls who I would like to aspire to get and they show interest I seem to have no self confidence to approach, and in a club I would get so nervous i'd drink so much I would forget about the whole thing and I lose my chance.

My main problem isn't self consciousness surrounding looks, I am by no means a Brad Pitt lookalike neither am I ugly as sin. My main barrier surrounds rejection like many of us but also a height issue, I seem to think all girls are after big lads who can offer them security and me standing at a below average 5 ft 7 it is the main reason my self esteem is so low and I've been a resident in the 'friend zone' many times.

I need help in finding my inner confidence in being able to walk up to women who give me attention and gain attention of those who don't, the fact I have never had a relationship in my home city yet going away to uni and gaining 23 average- below average girls speaks volumes about how I saw myself.

All advice appreciated, I have been studying pick up on and off for a couple of years but now truly focusing on it as enough is enough.

Thanks Tony, I sent myself out to do some work on my day game today, there's a newly installed golden post box in my City after recent Olympic success from one of our inhabitants Luke Campbell.

The task I set myself was to approach a group of girls and strike a conversation, then ask for them to take my picture with the post box by making a story up about showing it to a friend or something (two birds with one stone). After this I wanted to then get the girls in a picture with me, then to number close I would suggest sending the picture to them and try to number close.

Unfortunately there wasn't an ideal set who i'd like to N -close to try it (there's always another day) however I practiced my day game on ladies in their early- mid 40s for practice (any group intimidates me). My mindset is something I aim to work on but also feel I need a mentor and/ or wing to get this transformation sorted.

I have also set myself the task to approach taller women more when practicing to get the mental block out of my head and any girl (no matter how big her heels are!) will phase me on my night game!

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Yours in Sarging,

Sparkie