A lot of the people I know that immense themselves in the community do so with out any focus to improve an aspect of their character. They also don't have any organized game plan in the approach.


Every girl you approach, you should be focusing on DEVELOPING something. Developing better bodylanguage/ being challenging / building rapport/ stimulating imagination/ working on building attraction or step 1/ or whatever it is... and as that one thing improves you can start practicing on something else... just focus on practicing something.

some guys I know think like this during the approach, "hey she's cute I'm going to go in to get a number and whatever happens happens, i'll just do whatever I feel like doing.... and see if it works" A large goal with no real game plan to obtain it.

I don't like this. I think the best naturals and unnaturals that I know have a structure to their game plan. They have steps and they are focused on developing something(learning). They are thinking "tease her/challenge her, then qualify her, then if she is showing interest i'll try to isolate her or whatever it is...


to become better at pick up you most THINK and focus on improving something in your game, improve your attraction step by trying to be challenging with a women....

Focus, organize, then approach.


edit THIS ENTIRE POST is of course assuming that you do not have super high approach anxiety and are relaxed enough to think straight. If you do have super high approach anxiet, then here's the first step in your organized plan, work on getting over approach anxiety, say creepy/absurd things to a women or whatever it is.

If you focus only to routines, like you write, kino her, building rapport, stimulating imagionation, you can be really creappy. In every situation you must have game plan or goal, because if you don't have goal you don't pursuit to goal. If you have goal in your mind uncouncous mind will be working to the goal.

I really like your thoughts man... This is my approach. Always be on point and always learning. Its not always about the close but about the growing as a man!

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

if you don't have AA, what about working on just fucking the girl in front of you for fun?, seeing if she is up for it and the type of girl you like, instead of focusing on how you can impress girls more, what about working on how to improve how much you actually enjoy meeting girls? and how much you actually get laid?

"hey she's cute I'm going to go in to get a number and whatever happens happens, i'll just do whatever I feel like doing.... and see if it works"

this is the thing, the intentions are clear for this guy, but what does he want in this statement?, a number?, bet you he can get the number if he is sure enough about doing it to actualy go through the motions with that foucs, and actually hold the focus, but is that actually what he wants? a number?, some sort of prized phone number? past that there is no intention, ''i'll just do whatever I feel like doing.... and see if it works''
what works?, there is no focus or direction beyond the number, some magical nothing?, some girl magically jumps on your dick when you ''don't know'' what you are doing or where you're going with this? how can you lead if you don't know what direction you're going in?

''wow, look at that girl, she's a cute girl, I'm going to go in there hit on her, see what she's like and if she is good enough, I'll get up on it and try to fuck her''

^ a little more consistent with most guys true intentions, even though this seems to never be congruently expressed or applied by just about every fucking guy in the world, as compared to:

''I have to fuck this girl somehow, but what's the trick? what do I say or do to impress her to the point she fucks me?, am I good enough at that attraction building material yet? am I good looking enough for her? do I have enough money yet? how was my rapport work last time? I don't want to fuck this up *gulp*''

^this is about just as good as ''i'll just do whatever I feel like doing.... and see if it works''

when you are actually leading somewhere, you can often get there, or at least have a direction that you know to take it in, and when people are straying from the path, no direction with a focus on improving your ability to do arbitrary tasks that still lack direction, is still about as useful as no direction with no ability to do arbitrary tasks, being able to do those arbitrary tasks just improves the amount of people that actually want to be lead by you, not nessicarily does it make you better at leading, and if you can add those two together, having people want to be lead by you, when you can't lead gets you about as far as trying to lead, when no one wants to follow

handling your path, figuring out what you want, and going for it is more important then the rate at which you can get it, if you are needy, then you are not cut out for this game, and most likely you will fail, it's a hard knock life, if you are not needy but have direction, you will improve as long as you challenge yourself to do the things you are uncomfortable with doing in order to lead to your destination, rather then try to improve the rate at which you can impress women, if she doesn't value you, then she is not worth much, the more you lead and fail, the more patterns of behavior you will notice, and the more you can experiment with comming up with your own contingencies to handle your sticking points