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Instead of wasting your time like everyone else in that 90%, spend all those hours getting good at something that will put you around women. Take salsa classes, learn an instrument and start a band, ect... Basically, think of something that both you and women like. Example, women love guys in a rock band. You can be a looser and still get laid plenty by playing local rock shows. I know several mediocre musicians who get laid tons by playing local rock shows. Get good at something that will give you massive social proof and you will get laid lots.
Does that mean you should never cold approach? No. If you see a cutie go talk to her. However, instead of spending hundreds of hours doing something your not going to get good at, spend those hours on something you can get good at and that will attract women to you at the same time.
However, if you did go approach 350 women and got a few dates then feel free to disregard this post work on cold approach all you want.
My 2 cents is this.
Getting good at cold approaches is subjective. What you consider good may be a conversion rate of 50% of cold approaches working out. To someone else maybe they only need 2% conversion on cold approaches for them to be happy. No one person is the same or has the same expectations.
So to say don't waste your time cold approaching and do something else to get girls is in my humble opinion inaccurate. Don't get me wrong it all helps, everything you do to become more social and get around more women helps. But you are still going to have to approach cold warm or hot. as a side point as I recall it in "the Game" Styles was a writer and was always surrounded by beautiful women, but despite being in target rich environments he did not get any type of results. It still came down to him having to approach.
What I believe is that cold approaches take time to get some handles on. Not to ever give up, because it may take maybe 700 approaches to get good. Maybe 1000 approaches to get good. And when you really put all that effort into some type of context, you will have found some type of game or angle that works for you. Getting good at it is subjective.
You have your whole life to get it right so don't quit because your not good now. and yes do other things that you're interested in to get more social but there really isn't a need to complicate hobbies with women. May just enjoy your hobbies as they are and let women be a bi-product of it. Not the goal.
Just sharing my opinion brother, I look at it as time pressure and patients. No rejections just lessons learned.
I agree with this.
In my experience, most guys i've seen fail or not become great do so for really common reasons. A big one is that they are unplanned/unorganized/have zero structure to there game. Their just winging it, they never test the target (compliance tests) they don't think building attraction.... They don't really analyze or even THINK about what they did wrong/right. They just approach away worrying more about what to say than what they should be working on... they go into get success not to learn. If one goes into learn vs expecting some success they can indeed become masters. I tend to believe that if they come from a learning perspective they can succeed... I personally didn't have much of a problem with cold approaching when I started but it took me a while to get better than where I started. so I would suggest that when anyone tests this theory, do your 300 approaches (or whatever the op said), do it to learn a structured game plan for "gaming" the girl. Don't go in expecting success right away without learning anything.
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