there is guy at work who keeps flirting with my one-itis constantly! he's like all over her at any given chance.

the dick knows i like her and yet this doesnt seem to bother him. he refuses anyones offer to fill his water bottle apart from this girl. he's always emailing her and going to her side of the room to flirt and crack jokes with her. its getting on my nerves.

he's already seeing someone in another department and he flirts with my oneitis more than he does her!

any ideas on how can i dlv this prick as i know confronting him will only result in him saying i'm paranoid and that's he's just friends with her. which might be true but its annoying all the same!

Jealousy is unattractive.

yes i know which is why i'm not saying anything to anyone. just keeping it to myself.

but i'm also aware that it is unhealthy to bottle things up. one way or another feelings have a way of finding their way out. hence why i like posting here.

Does she know you like her?

If not, why aren't you moving in on her? If so, then what does she have to say about it?

Personally, I might neg a girl to tease her and I am a hypocrite when I say this but one should not talk shit about another dude, especially to a girl. It shows insecurity. Work on making yourself better, not trying to lower someone to make yourself look good.

forget about this retarded shit,

go for the girl, ignore the guy, paying him any attention and showing you are insecure will simply shift the frame to dlv you, and dhv him

and there is a good chance you are already sub-communicating your neediness and insecurity to her

if there is competition, just stop dicking around, start leading, state your interest, ask her out, get her out alone and sleep with her, forget about waterbottle guy, focus on your task at hand, the girl

if she sleeps with him first, no problem, doesnt mean shit, you can still get with her, if you sleep with her first, what ever, why does he matter at all, you dont own this girl, she is not your property and obviously you havent even tried to sleep with her, you should so you know if its even worth it, you know her from work? ask her on a date, problem solved

yeah, she knows. why havent i made a move? its kind of complicated.

we had a great relationship but i kind of fluffed that up in an afc move earlier this year by revealing my feelings. she had a bfriend at the time.

i havent actually out and out made a move on her cos i'm not entirely sure what her feelings are and im wary of further humiliating myself so kind of waiting around for some sure signs.

the signs i get are good but as someone here said they could also be signs that she's just being friendly so its hard to tell. she's also 15 years younger so that kind of makes things really difficult.

ive been told that if a girl is interested she will make her feelings known so i guess im just waiting around to see if she does. usually she makes some sort of approach one way or another.

trouble is if i do this the whole office will know about it and im afraid of being humiliated. how do i ask her out?

well, who cares about the office, what do you have to be humiliated about, they going to get on your case about not being gay or something?

just wait till no one is around her, tell her you find her attractive and want to know if she is interested in going on a date with you

use the word date

problem solved, she is not committed to you, you dont own her, you have absolutely no reason to justify being jealous, get it in, or get out and stop caring, chances are if she is alone and says no, no one will even know you asked her out besides her, and if you want to sleep with her, at some point she is going to have to know about it anyways, so just do it up and stop being so worried about what will happen, just go see what will happen

GOOD LUCK

are you sure i should use the word 'date'? i've read that by using that word it puts a lot of pressure on her.

Stop waiting for the gold to rain out of the sky, if you like this girl (which you clearly do) ask her out. There is nothing humiliating about asking a girl out, you have to go for what you want, no one is going to hand it to you.

As for the use of "date", why not put some pressure on her then? You're already in her life, she might see this as hanging out if you don't ask her directly.

ok. fuck it. i'm gonna do it. today.

get this over and done with once and for all.

yes GOOD LUCK

This depends on what sort of a vibe you have. If you say it in a serious way then no, don't say it because it does add a lot of pressure. If you tease tease joke joke then say it then it bcomes funny and shes more likely to say yes.

I used to work in a gym and there was this girl there with lovely fake tits who worked on reception and id had a bit of banter with her this work party a few days before. Everyone knew she was dating the area manager but a few days later I was on the computer, she walked by and I went "Oi Niveen, wanna come on a date?" and she giggled and went "you can't just ask someone that out of the blue!".

I said "well evidently, I can!"

"but you know I'm dating Leonard"

"...couldn't give a shit"

and she laughed and walked off but then came back 10 mins later and slipped her number on a bit of paper under my keyboard.

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well i asked her. surprisingly she said she liked me too!!!!!

she said she was confused. she said she likes someone else and thought i'd moved on.

i told her to give me her hand. she gave it to me and i held it and stroked it with my thumb. she stroked back.

when she said she'd think about it i said i needed a definite yes or no.

she said it hurt her but she said no. but it was a weak no.