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Well, logistically I have an age difference working against me, her being a senior and I being a freshman ( in college ) but age is only a number. Ideally I'll sit next to her the next class and flirt, and treat her like an HB 4. I'd definitely like to kiss her, and fuck her. But I just don't see myself getting to that point with her... Is it confidence that i lack? and how do I gain it... quickly!
confidence is a state of certainty
situational confidence is when you are certain of what you are doing in a particular situation
self confidence is being certain of your desicions
to build situations confidence, repeat the task you want to gain confidence in doing over and over (for example, ride a bike, you may suck at first but the more you do it, the more confident you will get about doing it, until you just know it is easy)
to build self confidence, put yourself in new situations, make yourself feel uncomfortable and face your fear of the unknown, until you feel less uncomfortable in unknown situations, constantly challenge yourself to do things that you fear, and start trusting in your own choices
self esteem is your own perception of who you are, it is how you view your own self worth
to build your self esteem you must first understand what your belief system is revolving around yourself, and to lower or raise your self esteem, that belief system has to be altered
here are some ideas to build self esteem with,
try thinking more positive thoughts on a regular basis (google the positivity challenge)
try setting goals for yourself attempting to achieve them without having to reach perfection and being ok with that before you set out to complete the goal
view your mistakes as an opportunity to learn and develope a better understanding
try new things that can help bring out new skills or help you improve as a person
reckognize what you can change and what you can not, work on improving what you can change right away, and work on accepting what you can't change and learning to love yourself
set goals and track your progress
have pride in your own opinions and ideas
give to others, try to do something for other people where your strengths lie, genorosity makes you feel great and it not only helps your own self esteem, but it can help other peoples self esteem as well win/win
excersise or join a gym, being healthy can help you look and feel good, and this can help shape a more positive view of yourself
do things you enjoy/think are fun
if your self esteem is extremely damaged and you are self loathing or think you are worthless or have experienced some trauma or pain in the past, you might want to consider seeing a professional counselor to help you address your belief system
confidence and self esteem, the two go hand in hand, one feeds the other and vice versa, there is no magical pill that can make you confident with a high self esteem right away if you are not already, but you can build both up and improve yourself
a good place to start would be talking to that girl and telling her you find her attractive and trying to ask her out, outside of school, and be ok with failing, if she says no there are plenty more girls you can build your confidence/self esteem with
GOOD LUCK