Hello, I am a 23 year old male from New York City who recently graduated from college. I'm taking post-bacc classes for 5 months to get certified as a paralegal. After that I will have a job. For fun I like to read, travel, hit the gym, play cards, and watch sports. So now....the reason why I posted this and joined this site:

Well my username basically sums up my situation. At 23 I have never had a girlfriend before and am on a 2+ year long which seems to be a never-ending dry-spell. In high school I was a social outcast and got mixed with the wrong crowd during my first 2.5 years of my college career so I never really had much of a chance to develop social skills and game. During the last 1.5 year(s) of my undergraduate career, I had women who were hot approach me but I have terrible social anxiety which prevented me from taking it further. I should be working harder to improve my situation; I do the bare minimum: go on dates from OKCUPID every now and then. There is no question that this is not enough to pull myself out of this hole; to be honest I lack the motivation to go out to bars or clubs and make a fool out of myself until it works. I have read the game from cover to cover on e-books and skimmed verusian arts and Roosh's Day Bang. From what I can tell is that they all allude to the same thing: practice makes "perfect."

Sometimes I wonder if there is any hope for me in this area of my life, and sometimes I feel like just accepting the fact that my life will be characterized by a lack of success with the opposite sex. I get very discouraged and frustrated easily when I get turned down. My physical attributes give me a sense of entitlement and I get angry when I see a morbidly obese individual spit game out of his fat ass. So I'm wondering: is there any hope for me? Is it possible that the learning curve is too steep? I'm aware that I have a bad attitude. What should I be doing to break this dry-spell? How long will it take me to see some success?

My goals: I'm not really setting the bar very high. I do not aspire to be one of the guys who writes a book or travels the world teaching seminars (although it would be nice). All I would really like is to be able to gain charm and charisma...but I believe that some guys have it and some don't. Having the ability to walk into a bar and walk out with a phone number or have some options would be more than enough for me. I would really like some honest replies, say whatever you want.

Nice, your at the the door of a new beginning. You have recognized that you want to get this area of your life handled!

Your luckier than most, if your claim is true.

But in order to get this accomplished, you need to get started, TODAY! Now slap yourself in the face, and tell yourself "I will do this!"

If you can't find it on here, Google and read: The PUA newbie mission.

Your 1st step.....lock eyes and say HI to every female you pass throughout the day.

Log reactions, start a journal if need be.

Ask as many questions as you need, Just don't get all caught up in reading EVERYTHING! Because no matter how much you learn, it won't do you a bit of fucking good if you don't use it!

Good Luck Bro!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I read the PUA mission. This is really going to suck. I'm very impatient and hate so much that this is a process. He bluntly put it in his profile: "you are not going to close a single set in these 6 weeks, and if you do you simply got lucky." Honestly, I do not even think it is possible for me at this point......

The journey really sucks, I only care about the outcome!

It only sucks if you let it!

With each positive reaction you will feel an extreme amount of confidence.

And in doing so the results may come quicker than you expect!

You must ask yourself; Do I like where I'm at now?

Because I can certainly tell you NOTHING will change if you don't do SOMETHING!

Where in you life now do you see the most attractive women?

What is your greatest fear of approaching them? Rejection?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I have a big ego that does not like rejection. Being confronted with the amount of work I have in front of me really gets under my skin. On dates it feels like work to me so I get frustrated. I hate ugly guys who have game!

Get over it! Rejection happens in every day life, usually not to the extent that you have built up in your mind! Women are not that evil, they just may have other things going on in their lives the moment you approach, it's not your loss it is theirs!
It does seem daunting at first, try smaller steps, Make it a goal to at least say Hello to one woman per day, work your way up!
And they likely envy your looks, know that once you overcome your anxiety you'll will be slaying twice the pussy as them!

Instead of hating, befriend one of those guys that you think has game, learn what they do!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

How bad were YOU when you started and how long did it take you to learn game? How much time should I give myself?

HORRIBLE! I just came out of a 20 year marriage. I was a savvy business man, she was a trophy (She left me, cheating with her boss!) I spent pretty much every Saturday night drinking my fat ass to a stupor, crying in the closet with a shotgun in my mouth! That was June 5 years ago.

I tried, but choked every time I looked at a woman.

I lost weight, joined a gym, got back in shape......still nothing.

Yet all these douche bags around me were taking home the girls all around me....THIS PISSED ME OFF!

Around November, (My Birthday!) I got a random email ad from "Double Your Dating" by DD.

First I ever heard of PU.

I read the e-book.

I took the newbie challenge: I Opened every store clerk, counter girl, and waitress that I HAD TOO come face to face with, I made a point to make eye contact with every girl that passed me, and say Hi to each one that was an arms length away (in my bubble).

December 22nd: I got my first hit, A text from a Quicky Store MILF I had exchanged #s with the week before. it said "My BF was such a dick! we are done!!"

All I replied was "Okay" a couple hours later (I wasn't used to getting text's) lol.

On New Years Eve ... A I did was not say a word but at midnight I took her hand and walked her to my bedroom....she fuck my brains out until DAWN!!!

I thought to myself this was not that hard at all!! I don't care anymore, I'm going to open every hot girl I meet!

Valentines weekend, I fucked 3 different girls from Friday to Sunday Morning!

#2 That weekend YELLED at me for still smelling like SEX,...and fucked me anyway!!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I'm just not very determined. It's too late for me the learningg curve is way too steep. Oh well I guess there is more too life than this.....

Shortest method possible: IF you have the balls!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.