I did what you said for a day. I couldn't really sleep at night.
I got up and I was going to see her again, It just melted me.
I started talking to her again and being needy. Kill me!

Don't be mean to me. I did not see this coming, everything was working out nice for last 2 months. One phone call and she just flipped.

Now tell me what to do.

I would if I was never going to see her again. We work together (same team), so like it or not, we see each other everyday. Which makes it harder.

She's 9th and she doesn't like oral. I agree with her being unstable and manipulative. I'm trying man.

Update:

I fucked up big time today.

I couldn't sleep last night because of the fear that I've lost her to her ex. When I got up in the morning, she was still on my mind. I have oneitis for her.

We spoke today and I told her that I'm still in love with her and I might not be able to live without her.

She has been with her ex for a year and then they stopped seeing each other. She is emotionally invested in him. She said she loves him and wants to be with him and is not sure if it will work out.

I have never been so needy in my life, I kept telling her I want to be with her and I will do anything for it.

I guess, she doesn't want to hurt me, I've been very nice to her and she is just trying to take care of me. We were still holding hands and stuff, but she didn't really take any initiative. I think she is doing this out of pity.

I feel terrible about myself, I can't hide my feelings for her. One call with her ex and she's a changed person.

I am in pain and this is affecting my work too. Just can't get her out of my mind.

The problem with me getting over her is "I am going to see her everday for 8 hrs for next 3-6 months" and she reports to me, so there is not getting away from her. Do you guys think, I should stick around or just move on? If I have to move on how do I do it? I can't live with this feeling of being rejected and be normal to her.

I am going out with a HB8 tomorrow, let me see if this changes anything.

you need to let go. seriously.
Go Fuck Ten Other Women.
stop being needy.
stop thinking about this one chick.
when the thought of her next comes to your mind, imagine her little cute pink lips swallowing a load of cum from her ex-boyfriend. disgusting, right?
well.. that's what she does while you cry for her.

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Yeah that does it. Thank you. I would never think about her again.

STAMP THAT 1% OUTTA YOU HOMIE THIS CHICK AINT WORTH IT SHES BEEN CAUGHT AND DONT LIKE IT IT WAS HER WHO FUCKED UP YOU DONT NEED HOES LIKE THAT IN YOUR LIFE CAN SE YOUR CONCERN though wouldnt want to live with something like that if it did happen

I would not even consider being with a girl who did not like oral.

Just sayin'

Everyone's saying the same. I'm trying to tell this to my brain. Thanks for your advice bro.

Yeah we were going to get there. Too late I guess.

well that's your problem right there. your logic will try everything it can to get this girl. what you dont realise is that everything you do to 'try' and get her will only serve to push her away. most of this seduction stuff is counter-intuitive.

think about it. what makes you want this girl so bad? surely not because of how she's treated you. i bet you don't even know why you want her so bad. you probably think it's some inexplicable force of nature or love that binds you two together, lol. the truth is more likely that you want her so bad because of the fact that you CAN'T HAVE HER which makes you want her all the more. meanwhile you are presenting yourself to her on a silver platter.

from her point of view she CAN HAVE YOU any time she wants. ergo - you are not desirable.

the more you humiliate yourself by telling her how you feel, the less power you have and the less attractive you become and the more you will want to 'try' to win her over to compensate for your feeling of humiliation. trust me. i know how this feels.

she has all the power right now and you are giving all yours away. if you want this woman then you will have to start taking control of this situation and the first way to do this is by not caring. or at least appearing like you don't care.

2 things will happen when you start acting in this 'dont care' mind set:

1) your actions will be in line with someone who does not care lending you an aura of mystery and intrigue and desirability as this wuss who once was so available now is not.
2) she will more likely start chasing you albeit subtly as women are prone to be in an effort to regain your attention which is what we all, at the end of the day, crave to one extent or another.

repeat this mantra over and over - I want nothing more to do with this relationship any more.

just out of interest. how old are the both of you?

She turned her loss into win.
Just hang out with your friends, do sports, have fun and forget about her.
Be like James Bond. He's never needy.

We are both 26.

I spoke to TonyKing last night. I've been getting solid advice from all of you. And yes, I'm going to do what you said, not give a fuck. Obviously my brain will advice me against it, but I will make sure I stick to this plan.

I am going out with this HB8 in the evening. She's a creative designer and we have a lot in common. Looking forward to it.

You know, I've seen this happen a lot of times. Couples break up, one threatens with suicide.

We all are programmed to think it's a bluff.

It really isn't.

I've lost two friends within the last year due to this same exact situation.

I understand your concerns for her, both events can be mutually exclusive. Move on, yet still keep tabs on how she is doing.

No life is worth risked losing just because we think it's a bluff.