I've got one more week until I go back to college and the whole first week is going to be almost nothing but partying and nightlife. I've studied Pick Up a lot this summer and I've increased my confidence. I haven't had much time to practice it but I'm expecting to go out and do my best.

I'm going to be at the bars and clubs nearly every night for the first week. I'm pretty confident about my game at the bar (quieter, easier to run into people) but I'm still concerned about my club game. I mean I really don't have the slightest clue what to do but my friends love going to clubs to pick up.

Usually what happens is we get there and everyone kind of separates. There's a lot of people dancing but I'm not the best dancer so I avoid it as best I can. There are people at booths but they are mostly in pretty tight groups. I hardly run into anyone ordering drinks and I pretty much end up walking around looking like an idiot until I see one of my friends.

So really what do you do at clubs? How do you approach when you can't hear anything and suck at dancing?

1.) Confidence- to make every situation your comfort zone, to not limit yourself and to maintain a stable positve attitude.

2.) Identiy- know what you are trying to accomplish when you approach women

3.) Make an Impression- listen to what you are saying and you can be a good judge of whether its good shit or not.

4.) Closing- number, kiss, or relocate. Already have a smooth plan of what to say to persuade a person to


~These are a few things to just keep in mind~

Best. Stay Strong.

Body language. Be confident and make direct eye contact.

I never use routines period, but I'd never even consider running routines at a club.

I can't dance for shit, but the dancefloor is where I get all the girls.

Remember, pick up is USELESS if you don't have the right mindset. If you're walking around aimlessly waiting for an opportunity, all the clever lines and stories in the world won't help you out. Improve your internal state first

I'm not looking so much for a routine but I just don't really know the norms. I mean the music loud, the girl is dancing, she's looking the opposite way, there's people everywhere, what do I do?

Don't over analyze things. You're just starting out so the most important thing is just to go out and have fun. Go up to girls and talk to them, dance with them, etc. etc. Figure out what works and what doesn't work.

But you need to build up confidence first. Even if there was a magical formula to pick up girls at a club, you wouldn't be able to succeed without the necessary confidence. And confidence comes from experience.

Right now, just have fun. Don't overthink things. Failure temporarily sucks but it is the most important aspect of game. Everyone is scared at first. You need to face your fears in order to succeed. There is no PERFECT time to approach, don't wait for it. Just go for it

Honestly, if you want to build your confidence you should hang out with confident guys that don't amog one another. Its kind of like having a parent, coach, teacher, big brother developing as you move into unfamiliar territory. Experience can build confidence. However, experience can also really hurt you if you get "dissed."

Some form of routine or plan would help a lot if you are a nervous guy. Also, if you have no success with improvisation I would also recommend a routine. However, you need enough confidence to execute the plan.

I would say it is important to analyze the situation. A you approaching a girl by herself. Is she with her girls? Is she with guys? Is she dancing? Is she at the bar? Doing these things will give you some insight into what she wants, how long you will be able to hold her attention, whether her friends will try to cockblock. SOmetimes a first impression lasts.


Usually, you can just go up to a girl and start dancing with her and that will work or you tease her a little and that will get her. Everything is about feelings though. If you fail alot early on it can really discourage you.

Thanks to the OP for kicking this off

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got some great feedback you might find helpful

Once again it's not a confidence issue... It's a SPAM issue...

Is it customary for guys to just go up to girls and start dancing with them. I feel it's more appropriate to talk to them first but I don't know I've never really had success at clubs. Also keep in mind this is a college club so a lot of young people.