Why would I want to 'next' a girl just because she made things difficult for me?

I LOVE it when a woman makes things difficult for me. I LOVE the tension, the drama of a long and drawn-out 'will they, won't they' relationship.

I LOVE the challenge of overcoming the woman's 'shit-tests' and eventually winning her over. It is this that makes her irresistable to me and makes me want her even more.

Why would I 'next' her? Of course if I know she's not interested or doesn't feel the same way then of course I'm not going to waste my time but I'm talking about a woman I KNOW in my heart feels the same way that is giving a little resistance.

No. I might have other options in the background but the woman who gives me a challenge, is the woman I'm most likely going to have some really heated sex with if and when we finally get around to sleeping with one another. That is going to be some explosive SEX!

And that is why I don't agree with 'nexting' a girl. Thank you for your time.

Youre mixing resistance with rejection.

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"Despite all the giggling, blushing and talk about having a deep connection, it all ends
with a cock in her mouth." ~60 Years Of Challenge

nope. i surely am not. i know the difference between the two.

why? because some girls don't want to fuck you, and it isn't a shit test, and there isn't anything you can do short of stalking her and committing an act of rape to get it in

believeing otherwise can lead to some pretty needy oneitis style shit going down

you don't have to fuck all the women you talk to, and if you think you can just cling on to one that is not interested and everything will work out, you will end up wasting your time an regretting it

and moving on to other options while placing a girl at the bottom of your priorities for lack of interest is called a ''soft next'', or a ''mental next''

moving on = next (from my POV)

I don't think so.

You said you know when to move on if they aren't into you and have absolutely no interest. That's rejection, albeit indirectly rather than her coming out and saying "fuck off".

You said you will keep going if you know "deep in their heart they want you". That's resistance.

Therefore, you know to fold and walk away when you are rejected, and to keep going when there is resistance.

Well then.
Its an ego thing. Its like a little child trying to have all the toys no matter what.

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"Despite all the giggling, blushing and talk about having a deep connection, it all ends
with a cock in her mouth." ~60 Years Of Challenge

Sounds to me like you are saying you daren't dump a girl should she deserve it, a very dangerous place to be, i should know i've been there much to my cost

lol.

perhaps i didnt make myself clear.

i'm not saying i'm focusing on only one girl at a time. i'm merely saying i like it when a girl makes things difficult for me. i know the signs of rejection:

I'm not interested.
I have a boyfriend
I'm not looking for a relationship (with you)
Leave me alone
Fuck off etc
no eye contact
no laughing/rapport etc
no chemistry

and with these i will walk away.

I'm talking about when a girl makes clear and definite IOI's:

initiating approach
playing with hair
holding strong eye contact
face lit up like a christmas tree on approach
returning texts/calls/emails etc
laughing at every lame joke - sometimes not even jokes, just laughing
nervous etc
clear and definite chemistry between two people that sends sparks flying

whilst playing a little hard to get.

I like when a girl plays a little hard to get whilst giving me clear IOIs.

As far as she is concerned she will 'think' I am nexting her because that is how i will appear, but in my mind I am playing a very patient game of 'cat and mouse'. I might very well be seeing someone else in the meantime - i'm just saying i'm not writing the 'hard to get' girl off just because she played a little hard to get.

i hope that is a little clearer.

Hmmm. On reflection - it seems that the girl in question really isn't playing hard to get at all.......

damn. what have i been waiting for?????????

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You're just like every guy, nobody next girls with the list you just put up, lmao.

I think this thread is really retarded

Also this is the guy who posted "How I got my oneitis out on a date."

And here he says, I'm gaming other girls... jesus, what is it?

well i'm not gaming other girls no.

hence my realisation that the girl in question wasn't playing hard to get.

i thought i made all this quite clear in my posts. don't you people read?

why do you like it when she makes it difficult and plays games? im a straight forward person and i play games ONLY if she does first

well, i like it in the sense i might like watching a really good horror film or go on a really scary rollercoaster if you know what i mean.

i think most girls will play some sort of game. we all do. nobody walks around with a placard above their heads advertising how they're feeling (well, some do, and i find that most unattractive). advertising how you feel to others is how you give your power away.

when a woman makes it difficult for me to know how she is feeling about me then this creates a challenge for me. a woman who lets me know how she feels about me too soon is no challenge. i'm sure its the same thing for women.

relationships is politics. they're all about power.

Also understand i probably have deep-seated emotional issues as my parents were emotional retards which makes it difficult to express myself emotionally. girls seem to like this initially.