Hi guys,

I want to discuss something. Lately I have been wanting to find a girlfriend. I´m in love with love.

I wonder though, what kind of impact does it have on my search if I sleep around whilst looking?

I have a reputation of getting around and that often gets girl interested in me but I find that few girls take me seriously when I want to meet them again. They often think I´m just after one thing (and so far they have been right). It´s different now and I want to try monogamy with some special snow flake.

What is your opinion on sleeping around when trying to find something serious?

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sleep around all you can my friend

Just dont start a relationship with a girl who fucks on the first date

Thank you for you reply.

Doesn´t other girls that are looking for something real care though?

I´m 18 by the way.

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if she's looking for something real she wont fuck on the first date, a girl that makes you wait it is a girl thats worth it

supplication will neither help nor harm your chances, a girl will sleep with you because she is attracted, not because you do something for her

if you gotta play by some girl's own personal rules to get her, then she isn't worth it

this question is the same as, can a girl sleep around while looking for a boyfriend?

depends on the boyfriend, and depends on how willing to disclose information the girl is who is doing it

personally, I believe discression is a good policy to have when it comes to revealing sexual history

you are probably better off only dating a girl after you have had sex with her as well, and if you are only talking to one girl at a time when you are single, then get used to the idea that you will not be getting laid often and wasting alot of your time in between lays

Yes. You can and you should.

Reason one: it keeps you from putting too much pressure on yourself with one girl. In the end, you have no idea what's going to work out, so you may as well live in the moment. Far better than being needy. (As in, "I need to see this girl again, I need to make this work, I need her to like me.")

Reason two: it gives you a much more healthy attitude about sex. Sex is fun. It's part of a balanced diet. Like all things, you can take it too far. But I see so many guys on this board who are uptight about sex and have all these unhealthy hang ups. Sex is awesome, but it's still just sex. It's not forbidden fruit, it's not a lifelong bond, and God isn't going to hate you based on who you do it with.

The last reason... Most guys try to get a girlfriend so they can sleep with her.

That's running game backwards.

It's way more emotionally exciting when sex happens sooner and naturally. Trying to impose a logical order on a relationship is cutting off any real connection.

Of course... BE SAFE. That means using common sense. Don't fuck everything that walks. Use protection. And so on. There's plenty advice just on this.

And be ethical. Decide what lines you'll cross and what lines you won't. My personal policy, if I start sleeping with someone, I'm not sleeping with anyone else. Maybe that's only one month, or maybe that's only one night. But juggling two girls at once just isn't safe, emotionally or otherwise. Again, that's just my policy, and everyone needs to decide for themselves.

Sleeping around and looking for a girlfriend are parallel things. I don't see how they would intersect really. Go meet nice girls during the day, calm your libido with other girls during the night. Once you find that nice girl, stop sleeping around with others.

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Thanks guys!

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