I met this girl through work, attraction has been established. But I'm a bit stuck here. Short of the long here is about 2 weeks ago she invited me to go out, which I accepted, I didn't really know her too well, shes cute, probably an over all 6.5-7 with several quirks and endearing qualities that I find inexplicably attractive (anyone else dig the slightly crooked but not mangled teeth? I do for some reason). And we got drunk together, I managed to figure out she kind of lives in the shadow of her twin sister, shes kind of a tom-boy (something else i find attractive), and shes very horny... The last of the three was made apparent to me after some very persuasive talk about going back to her house to crash for the night (IOI? Oh noo, drunk me figured it was a friendly invite to not have to drive drunk home.) So once there, and on the couch she proceeds to come on to me. And somewhere between the liquor, it being 4a.m., my lack of a condom, and what ever else was running through my head I had to respectfully decline.

We hung out a few times afterward, but i think i screwed up... Whilst coming out of the bathroom a gay joke flew my way and I immediately thought her sister (shes far more outgoing and sarcastic, but also far more typical) so i said shut up -sisters name- and when i rounded the corner there sat my little red head looking pretty upset that I had mistakenly called her by her sisters name and now I'm in the dog house.

Things aren't the same. All progress made seems to have been lost, she's shy, but almost refuses to hold eye contact (person pet peeve of mine). I think shes trying to freeze me out, though she doesn't know its called that, but I still catch her off guard sometimes with a joke or comment to which she laughs and replies with something along the lines of "wow you're over the top". And this continues day in and day out.

My conclusion, attraction is still there, sometimes clearly so, but I hit some deep nerve with the mistaken identity (They're twins, and they sound the same for pete sake!) And even with me hitting some of my most clever points in PUA and social psychology (The bar wasn't set very high before either) I'm about ready to chalk this up to a "lack of experience" failure. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Sincerely, SyrusX

I would wager she has (inchoate) buyers remorse and her reluctance is related to that, not your sister comment. Provide some more comfort and rapport and if and when she seems interested in going out again then close her.

I can definitely see that, the shame of it is this wasn't even a legitimate pick-up And I managed to portray an uninterested dick in the process. Ill definitely take that advice, and appreciate your input. I suppose worst case is, it doesn't work out lol.

Now, here's a thought, but mind you I'm just spitballing here...

Walk up to her, be direct, and say "Look, I don't know what's been with you lately, but it seems to me we had something good going, until recently. As I see it, we can go back to that, or go our separate ways, because this-- this isn't working for me."

And walk away. Sack up, lay down the law.

+1, before you almost had sex with her it sounds like she lead and you followed
Change that up, show her who's boss, she's obviously in to you

Thyde

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I guess it is time to turn off the PUA in you and show your vulnerability by turning on your romantic Beta side and tell her how you feel...

I think she likes you but she does not want to be ended heartbroken so until she is not in a point where she feels safe about you and with you she better closes up.

I would do something like what JackBNimble suggests, just a little different ignoring that she has been acting weird lately.
I would say something like: "I've been thinking it a lot and I really enjoyed what we had a couple of weeks ago and I would like to enjoy those sorts of things all the time with you."

Everything said and done, connection re-established. Building rapport. Thanks guys!