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Girl I've like all summer, we went on a date and kissed at the end. I left the next day to go out of town for 2 weeks (which is shitty timing but I had to), soo I messaged her lightly the days after (every other day or so) and they went well. This past Friday I text her while we were both out and she was really short with me... So I decided to send her a ping today that cracked me up but BEFORE I sent it to her, I sent it to 3 girls that I keep in touch with. They ALL laughed and thought it was funny, her on the other hand was short with me again.

She IS currently doing Rush Week for her Sorority but what gives? Any advice on how to handle this? Should I wait till I return back to text her? I work with her next Monday, but I'd like to go into work on a positive note with her.

Thanks All, this is the first girl I've gamed and actually had a really big crush on so I'd like to get things back to normal.

Cheers.

waisting time with idle text banter when ur focus should be getting her out again

I'm done with all the banter via text message as well. Creating/maintaining attraction just doesn't seem to work via text for me. Pretty much all of my texting is done with the sole goal of getting this girl out again. I hardly ever send over 5 texts to any girl in single interaction anymore.

So, I'm not sure how much texting you were doing but overtexting seems to be a major cause of attraction flaming out for me.

I think you should go cold for a few days. Then open her up with something cocky/funny like: "I still try to keep up with whther or not you're dead." Then, when she responds (it doesn't really matter what she says) you can say: "Oh, you're alive." Like you were disappointed or something

But you shouldn't rush texting her back. Use texting as a 'reminder' that you're still in her life Have fun with it. There's a lot that you can get away with during texts, as long as you have the right attraction.

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is she flaking you?
have you tried to sleep with her?
how long have you been in contact with her since the date, and what have you done to move things towards P into V with her?

Flaking as in being short with her texts the past 3 days, yes. I can't ask her out on a date again because I'm back home for another 3-4 days while she's still up at college.

Nah, I didn't try to sleep with her first date. My goal was to make sure I k-closed with her because I didn't want to let a girl like her slip up.

And our date was 11 days ago and we've texted about 5-6 times. The first few exchanges were flirty and the last two she was short with her responses. She's extremely busy with Rush Week but idk what gives and why that changes anything.


Should I wait till I'm back to text her, this Friday or wait till I see her at work a few days later on Monday and maximize my time in person? I don't want to go into work cold but I dont want another shitty exchange lol.

Thanks

just wait until you are back and can invite her out to do something, call her instead of text, invite her out, see if she flakes

I agree with pumpington on just waiting until you're back. She won't slip this way, and not initiating any contact might not be a bad thing. If she hits up you, great. If she doesn't, just know that she is thinking of what a great time you guys had and that you guys will go out when you're back. Once you're back, call her and invite her out.

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Solid Advice my dudes!

Thanks. My plan is to hold out for a little bit and act like I don't care/didn't even notice. Come work next monday I'll flirt with her and the other girls at work and see where things go from there. I'll be sure to maximize my time with her in person.

Work can get pretty busy soo in the past we've used the works Instant Messenger to flirt even when we are sitting right next to each other haha.

Would that be a bad idea considering the last 2 text changes weren't so hot?

Thanks again.

Bump^

Update: First day back at work, I didn't her very much at all as because our seating arrangement has changed, but I did message her for a bit. She seemed receptive and helped me out a bit via email seeing as it was my first day at my position however I noticed she was pretty shy.

What are your thoughts and which approach should I take?

Wednesday is my next day at work and I sit a bit closer to her this time, but on Mondays and Fridays we aren't very close to each other. Sooo I gotta maximize my time this coming Wednesday lol.

Thanks!

best options are to text her when you are back if you are not going cold. show her you want to see her and continue where you left off. if you don't move in someone else will. if you want to wait go cold all weekend. and then text her that joke about being alive or "hey how was your weekend". very generic question. she will say "good and yours" and you say "i had a good weekend. i wish i could have spent sometime with you though, when are you free?" you don't have to text that word for word but just quickly move the conversation to a date. and do your thing in person. good luck.

Rush week is tiring man. Gotta help set up, run and buy last minute stuff, stand there and act all happy for 3 hours and then sit another 1-2 hours to talk about who would be a good potential member.

Unless you're her boyfriend, I wouldn't put it pass her to just go MIA for a week.


Source: I'm in two fraternities, one Greek, one co-ed professional.

I agree with ya brotha. But I dont understand how you go from GREAT to awkward/shy.

I just want to know what approach I should take at this point...I'm tired of getting with random babes, this is a girl I actually have feeling for.

Any tips and/or advice is highly appreciated.

Cheers.

Edit: If it's just 11 days, just let her be. Not texting can show you are busy, being short doesn't mean flaking. It's true being short can be indicator of disinterest, but you have to realize there is more to her life than just you.


Don't let her being short affect you, you're not officially together. Go read a book, learn something new and when you have an opportunity to see her or ask her on a date, do so.