After reading a number of books, I have started using the opinion openers quite effectively. Recently, I took it to the next level. I am no longer just asking 'interesting opinion related questions' in order to get a conversation going. Instead, I am also eliciting their values.

Here are a few of my new openers and why I created them:

1. I currently have a GF so I want to know right away how important this is for my target and if its a deal breaker. So here is how I open:

My Wingman: We were just disguising an interesting issue and we need a women's opinion.
Me: " I have this friend and she really like this guy however he has a GF" What do you think she should do? Pursue it, share feelings, etc...

Usually they would tell you what they would do, and given my circumstance such info is quite useful. Later I build on it, I try to put her in the situation and ask, what if he tried to kiss her, should she go with it. Etc... This usually gives a pretty good indication of how she sees relationships especially if its a guy she wants thats taken.

*this one has worked great

2. Another thing I want to know is how the target feels about a one night stand. So the scenario I have created is as follows

My Wingman: We were just disguising a unique situation and we need a women's opinion.
Me: "I have this friend of mine and she met a guy she really liked and they hit it off right away. I was there and can attest that he was a great guy. As things progressed he invited her back to his place - and I think she wanted to go- but wanted to look like a lady so she took his number instead. Now, a day later she looses the number and feels really bad about it. She is regretting not taking him on his offer when she had the chance. What do you think she should have done.?"

This will give you an indication of how potentially promiscuous a girl is. In the example there are many 'given' excuses so not to make it a slutty event but a should mate event. Leter, I ask what if it was her soul mate? Sometimes you know, should she have done it knowing that? Or something along those lines. I stack questions to dig deeper to really get an answere reading between the lines.

Also, later in the night, I know weather to invite her back to my place or not. I can further push the button of -fear of loss- in a very subtle way or the desire button depending on how she answered my questions.

(these are ways of indirectly asking: will you have a one night stand? would you hook up with a taken man?)

So start getting answers to questions you really want to know and find creative ways to get those answers. Lastly, the real answers are in their micro-expressions not the words that come out of their mouths.

Devious, Misleading ~ Awesome, I like it. You get what you want to hear and it helps you to lead the conversation and further the interaction and helps you to further lead her to the close

I like the opion openers. I'll have to try them out for myself considering I've overused the "Pink Shirt" opinion opener

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