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Unless you are a alpha male or ladies man, opening a woman is not a good idea. They have the inner strength to be able to handle attractive women when they open them. These guys are not overcome with fear when talking to girls.
One think PUAs do not say... is that everybody gets rejected, this thing of 100% close ratio only happens when you do not approach... Only sociopaths who have not empathy and respect at all do manipulate all persons they meet. And is not that they overcome the fear of talking to girls... it is just that they have a much bigger fear or pain that is driving them to act that way.
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How do I become strong enough to open a woman? I can learn openers and routines until my balls are blue, but that wont give me the ability to be good with women.
Find a way that is fun for you to open. So you will be doing something that is fun for you... Forget about the results, everybody gets rejected. Yes some women want to meet guys... that does not mean that all of them all the time will want to meet someone... The result you get with them has very few to do on who you are... It has much more to do with them. See opening as showing them that a door to connect with someone is open and respect their choice to go through the door or not.
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I thought that learning the game was the answer. I have done openers, only to not be able to know how to handle women. After my opener, they answer, get cold, or the situation just turns akward. There is a huge insecure feeling that comes over me. Looking to routines to make me feel safe is not going to work.
How do I overcome this feeling of being insecure to be able to handle talking with attractive women?
According to recent studies in psychology every emotion we experience has the same feelings in our bodies. Our senses sense something out of the ordinary and adrenaline starts to cover our body... Then our brain very quick analyses what is happening in the surroundings and interprets the feeling as fear, excitement, anger, love, etc. So as long as you are attracted to women you'll feel exited to go and talk to them and this feeling will never go away. I mean you can do amazing NLP, EFT or any other psychological trick to shut down that feeling, and yes it will work.. but you'll see that the drive to meet women will also disappear.
Just learn to accept yourself and be happy with who you are and the things you do... So that you have fun in the process, because all routines, techniques, patterns, etc can help, but very little... if a girl wants to meet you, unless you do something really really stupid a couple of times in a row, you'll loose your chances...
On the other hand if a girl really does not want to meet you... no routine will work.
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I believe that I am a good person and that I have stuff to offer a woman. The problem is that attractive women are hit on constantly. They are very picky and it is hard to be given the time of day. It is hard to distinguish yourself from the last 25 losers that just tried to get with her earlier today.
Women are not hit as much as you think, but yes they are very picky and I've the feeling that they've been manipulated a lot by the media to become like that.
The last 25 guys who hit on them are not losers at all. Really it requires courage to hit on a girl so anybody who tries that deserves a lot of respect.
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We are approaching them and yet we need them reciprocate to be successful. Our success is dependant on the response of another person. That is something we have no control over.
Exactly that's where PUAs lie we can't control their responses... Stop thinking about success... go there to have fun and be proud of doing what is right to do.
Final advice... Another thing that PUAs do not say is that it is very uncomfortable most of the times for the girl and for the friends around the girl to approach them when they do not want to be bothered... Doing that even if they laughed and replied to your opinion opener will make you look like a creepy weirdo with no social intelligence...
Still open your eyes and be patient there are always women who want to meet someone, they are easy to notice... go for them.
The guys I know who are "naturals" and "successful" with women are not the ones who approach a lot and do a lot of techniques... are the ones who take all opportunities that they find.