University, because depending on what course you have a lot more free time.

Also most people have their own place so F-closes and other private hanging out is easier.

More freedom comes with University life as well.

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Hey all, first time posting and looking to be a huge deal at college. I'm heading to Brown University in 2 weeks and plan on using my charm / pretty good looks to befriend and eventually lay many girls and make lots of good male friends.

I've already got the basics down- I'm alright at approaching and conversing, and I'm very sociable so I should have no issue working my way into social circles. I'm looking for some help on specifics before I head off.

Peacocking - I know peacocking isn't as important in college but I'd like to have at least one thing to show off since I dress fairly standard (but well). I'm not a hat guy, what do you guys think about belt buckles / watches? Anything else you could recommend?

1 on 1 talking - If I'm passing a cute girl while walking somewhere is it cool for me to just start talking to her?

Negs - Should I just avoid these entirely in college? I've typically done negs with a chip on the shoulder and just laugh it off since I don't like to make girls feel bad

Ignoring when approaching sets - Should I follow the typical protocol for waiting 5+ minutes to talk to the target? I feel like a lot of girls in college will just think I'm uninterested and walk away long before 5 minutes are up.

How to move from a # pickup to sex? - I'm confident in landing tons of numbers, but how can I transition this to sex in the long run? I don't want to rush anything and make these girls in a new environment feel like sluts. This has always been my biggest issue.

And last but not least, specific pick up lines - Got any recommendations? . I plan on wearing this awesome "YMCMB" sweatshirt and then walking up to girls and saying, "Hey, do you know what this means?" only to inform them that it means I'm a young money, cash money, billionaire (adding to my alpha stature) and hopefully landing some numbers that way. I could definitely use a couple more pickup lines and conversation-continuers, however.


Any help is appreciated, thanks guys!

I tried out Conquer your campus, some pretty good advice there made me really re-think college game. The gist of it is that you have to build up social circles instead of using pick-up on them openly, you just expand your social circles to make a connection between you and women(since your social circles will overlap).

Hard to really explain it without typing out pages of info, regardless it's a decent book with good advice for college. A lot of it is based on pre-selection apparently.

Anyways for approaching I found that just going up saying "hey, how are you" is the best option and ask about the usual shit like what's your major, where are you from, try to relate the answers to yourself( I find that helps build rapport). No need to openly hit on her or ask for her number the first time(since my college is pretty small I'll see her around), second time I meet her I do a bit of the usual chit-chat and at the end ask for her number(say that "yeah so me and some friends are going out to X on friday, I'll give you a call")

I find that that usually works well.

As for peacocking I don't really do that( although have had success with it on rugby tours because you usually have some kind of fucked up uniform when you go out, e.g. the Borat mankini, carrying around a massive blow up turtle, and women just open you after that)

Alright guys,

Just moved in for my 2nd year. Only one in the flat at the minute so wanna go round knocking but having some serious approach anxiety. What do I say when they open the door? "Hey I'm ____ from next door, just wanted to say hi"? I have no idea. Having a total bitch moment.

Totally agree on that being yourself and building confidence over time is the way to go!

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I have been at college for about a month. The lifestyle that I have is fairly different than 99% everyone else. You got the people that party and drink, the stoners, the completely socially akward people, and then the AFCs.

One thing I find interesting to note is that some people actually look down on my lifestyle if I dont say anything about partying coz everyone knows all the "cool" kids do that lolol

I work my natural game throughout the day and live a pretty stress free life. I have access to beer and other stuff. I live a balanced, invigorating life that I love being in every day.

Unfortunately just because I am not the partier type I am given a negative stereotype...

It used to bug me. I have a large enough social network that with a little work and effort I would be able to go to pretty much any big thing happening happening that weekend. I choose to chill around my campus though. Haters gonna hate


Just thought I would share my experience here at college. Also last tip is if you want hot girls, all that you have to do is do the opposite of all the AFCs that inevitably hit on her every day. You can use other AFCs to see what NOT to say or what not to do hehe

guys I'm having a situation which I'm not sure what to do next , and I don't want to leave it to be archived online, is there anyone who can help me ( I'll send u a private message )
thanks

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Why cant you just post it here?

From what I've found, the easiest place to pick up or just make new friends and expand your social circle is in queues to clubs. People are very grateful for an interesting conversation during a boring queue

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Alright guys so I'm stuck right now and I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice here.

Here's the problem I can't seem to close and I was wondering if anyone had any tips for this.

Not to brag or ego boost myself but I figure it's best you guys know what type of person I am. I'm 5'10, 160lbs, a soccer player at the university so I'm pretty athletic, I used to model when I was younger, I'm a very sociable person and most people are drawn to me at parties I can honestly say I'm the life of the party most nights. I don't know what I'm doing wrong so I figured I'd ask for some help or advice. Any tips?

if you're the life of the party just bring the "party" back to your place
if u get that far just be more aggresive in your approach. dont wait for a moment, make one

Okay, here's my fucking question.
I've got a somewhat of a outer circle (consisting moslty out of women), but I don't have an inner circle because at the beginning of my freshmen year I was still going with the bus to my college (and not staying there or partying there).
So now it's december and I'm practicly sitting on my own here, in my dorm room.
So what the hell do I need to do?
Yes, I need to get a inner circle. But If I want an inner circle who's dedicated to PUA-related stuff, I will have trouble finding one. If I would just ask people from my dorm, I would be with a mixed group consisting of everything (from total AFC's, to drunk and druggy's).
Or do I just need to go out and do some day game, trying to get one girl and not focus on groups of girls?

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Hey all, I agree with butterflied about having a uni thread! it is such a different dynamic than game in cities or game outside the university/college sphere.

The main xp from my 4 years at uni is aligning yourself with the right inner circle and external associates.

-Avoid peacocking, you will just look like a tool. The key with uni is to blend in but slightly stand out, add one peice of flair to your wardrobe. ie a nice blazer for special occasions or a necklace or jacket. This way people won't see you as trying to draw to much attention. The best for university is a few v-neck shirts, few dress shirts nice jeans, casual dress shoes or sneakers. pay attention to the particular fashion trends of your school ie movember, fall and spring fashion ect

-look for social conduits. These people are like lightning bolts for visibility and getting known around campus. It is important to note though that not all these people give value they just are known. Find people that have value and allign yourself with them ie athletes, party planners, djs, musicians, *frat boys ect. never turn down to get to know someone, if they turn out to HLV you be friendly but firm. Everyone has skills and hidden talents to be flushed out that may help you in certain situations.

-obtain value through your interests that give you social capital ie if your interested in athletics choose a sport that will introduce you to the most ammount of chicks ie yoga, hip-hop dance, salsa, or swing. These clubs not only have an abundance of women but also have very few guys there. Spend a week or so without being to forward and girls will open up to you. Pursue skills necessary for your future but also allow you to network. ie I went into film and joined a campus media service this gave me access to an office to meet hot chicks plus high-tech film equipment for my own endeavours. Also it allows networking capabilities like interviewing bands, politicians, buisinessmen ect. any clubs that allow for networking are key

-live in public as much as possible and be comfortable your mantra should be "welcome to my living room". Find all the most highly congregated areas during the day ie popular study spots cafes, parks, lounges and do work/chill there. Coming across as visible and nonthreatening will give women that see you an excuse to open you at parties. Befriend chicks and take them on coffee dates, people you know will see you and it will increase your prestige. Once you become known and desired it will be much easier to seal the deal with the girls that have you on their radar.

-***focus on logistics: this for me is most important. In college your site and situation is the most important for your inner and outer game. Make sure you organize your schedual to fit your lifestyle ie no 8am classes if you can help it.
-make sure your house is centrally located and fit for hosting parties regularly. The more woman that are comfortable at your house the better, this is where the parties or pre-drinks should always be.

-cleathliness is godliness. Boys make sure your house is neat, from first hand exp nothing drops value than a dirty house. ive had girls go from dtf to LMR just based on the state of the bathroom and this was her going for a rubber. keep your house tidy and prepared.
-if your going out to game be prepared, bed made, rubbers in drawer, playlist made, room not a total mess.
-if you know a girl is coming over ask your housemates to skidattle while you entertain. If they are good wings and they are popular they should have something to do anyways.

-make d2's casual. Women in college rarely like the traditional date, try not to formalize anything and be casual. No whats going on in your town city by subscribing to a website or events paper. On a prearranged meeting act if you have nothing planned and "stumble" upon the events you have preselected. Ie if you know the chick likes art say lets go for a walk and oh what's that walk in to the art show. She will ask if it was planned and you can be coy and say no with a smile on your face.
-as a side bar to this try and do smthng different everyday and tell people about it. This can include concerts lectures, protests, parties, club events whatever. Avoid routine its boring to women.


As an end note, college game is much more long-term than cold approach game as uni is much more tight-knit. Too much cold approaching will make give you a reputation as being weird or a player which doesn't do you well. Put in the groundwork and it will pay off. If you need to blow off some steam go out of town for the weekend and game/cold approach as many girls as you want. This way if anything goes wrong you won't see these people for the rest of your degree.

Hope this was helpful Zizek

Great post Zizek, agree with everything you've said

I'm a postgraduate student in the UK. I have made an accidental observation which I hope you can all use to your advantage.

I joined the universtity running club late. I joined the university gym late. I joined the university rowing club late and I joined the university mountaineering society late.


In all these social settings I found myself being the 'new guy'.

The club and society members were all familiar with each other and when I arrived I became centre of attention. Instantly. Food for thought