Hey guys I'm Hersh

Im a 19 year old who is starting university in Singapore tomorrow morning and want to improve my skills with women.

Im writing a journal for two main purposes. Firstly, I want to put down my progress as a reference to see how much I have improved and secondly I would like feedback from those more experienced than me.

My history with girls is pretty simple. I had my first girlfriend at 12. We lasted for 1 week and I never even kissed her. My second girlfriend was when I was 14 and we lasted for almost half a year but never kissed (whoa). My third girlfriend was when I was 17. I lost my virginity to her when I was 17 and we were together for almost two years. Now I am single and looking to improve this area of my life after watching through the RSD foundations program and taking notes.

My plan:
Tomorrow is my first day of university. Im living alone for the first time ever too. Therefore I really dont know what to expect and probably cannot yet plan exactly how many nights a week I can go out. That being said I still want to get started working on this area of my life, and therefore am going to try to be as social as possible in university, while applying as many of the principles as possible that I learnt from watching RSD - Foundations. I am also going to try some cold approaches such as sitting next to cute girls in lectures and trying to talk to them. Im going to post on here every night and talk about how my social interactions went.

Also I am going to make lifestyle changes. Im overweight and therefore Im changing my diet and getting a gym membership and Im pretty anxious so im going to meditate for 15mins a day.

Goals:
Right now my goal is simple. Just talk to women. If i can take things further, sure thats great. But just talk to women. Try to get comfortable talking to women. Ofcourse I will try to apply the principles of what ive learned from Foundations. But basically if i just make an active effort to talk to women, that will be a start.

I shall head to bed now, as Im going to need to rest for my first day of uni tomorrow. I will post again at this time tomorrow and talk about how it went (especially socially). Till then, any tips and encouragement will be appretiated.

Cheers guys!

So today was my first day of uni. Heres how im going to break it down:

The bad:
I only made 1 cold approach
I had terrible non-verbals including eye contact, body language and vocal tonality
I had no kino going
I went into resume style question asking
I did not communicate to her as a sexual being
I ignored her friend. (2 set)
Did not number close or even get her FB
Did not manage to hit the gym

The good:
I made a very nerve racking cold approach and stepped out of my comfort zone
I didn't use any routines, I just went up to her, sat down next to her and her friend and said "hi"
It was a good interaction and I may have made a pretty good looking female friend
Ate very healthy today
Meditated for 15mins (was not easy as I have ADHD)

Lessons:
The path to mastery seems long. But as a 19 year old, I have time to develop my "social muscles"
I need to do a lot of work on my interacton skills. But atleast for now I realise what needs to be done
I need to build social momentum and string together more approaches, not just 1

Next time:
Just focus on vocal tonality. I will work on mastering a strong and solid vocal tonality first.
MAKE MORE APPROACHES

Questions:
After having watched and learned sooooo much new info from foundations, what is the best way to incorperate this into my life and interactions?

Today I did not have any classes so a fairly low key day.

The bad:
Didnt make any cold approaches
No meaningful interactions with women

The good:
Made a conscious effort to speak in a loud and dominant "alpha" voice the whole day to family, friends and other people I came into contact with. Even on the phone.
I ran for an hour today on the treadmil. Feels fucking good after so long
Bought a few supplements to help my mood/ health such as multi vitamins, fish oils and 5 HTP (reccomend others that are natural/non harmful if you know any)

Lessons:
People respond to you so well when you speak loudly
It makes me feel more confident when I speak loudly
I dont have to repeat myself when I speak which probably comes across as alpha

Next time:
Tomorrow I have a lecture at my uni. I need to make a few cold approaches there.
I need to maintain my strong vocal tonality when talking to attractive women

Questions:
Its quite unnatural for me to talk loudly. Is this normal? Does it get easier as I do it more?

Yesterday I went out partying at a mega club in Singapore called Avalon.

The bad:
Didnt make any "cold" approaches
Didnt do enough kino or try take things further
Did not have the best eye contact
I consumed alchohol ((

The good:
I was feeling really good and just having so much fun
I interacted with this girl and her boyfriend (cool people) she was giving me solid IOIs but I didn't take it anywhere
I saw a high status girl I knew from high school and instead of shying away I yelled out her name, beckoned her over to me and hugged her, spoke to her for a bit
I saw another girl who was from my high school and cold approached her. Really not that good looking but I practised my game on her and she was playfully hitting me and stuff
I was just that guy who was having fun and screwing around

Lessons:
I find it difficult to vibe with a girl one on one. However I find it really easy to talk to girls when they are with their friend or a guy. I wonder why this is. Lack of practise?
When you act kinda aloof and are just in a good dominant mood, girls who ignored you in the past also are kinda intrigued by you (perhaps not attracted yet)
I dont remember last night too clearly because I had alchohol. STOP DRINKING!!

Next time:
Dont drink
Make some actual "cold approaches"
Try to move the interaction to the next level (hugs, kino, perhaps even more)

Questions:
Why is it I find it harder to talk to a girl 1 on 1 then in a group setting? How do I work on this?

Today was quite un-eventful. Spent most of the day chilling at some and getting over my hangover. Did run for an hour today so thats good.

Hey Hersh. Sounds like you're seriously committed to keep a log of your practice and evaluate.
As RSD Tyler Durden says it: Getting good with girls is getting in talkative state.
Thats most important.

Which uni do you go to?

What a night! So the day time was quite boring just school, classes, 1 cold approach. Then at night things got interesting. Im going to post my interactions.

Approach 1 (2pm)
Sat next to 2 UGs in Philosophy class, had missed the start of the lecture so I turned to them and asked them to catch me up to speed. They were very un-receptive and after this I couldnt really befriend them so we just sat silently next to each other for the rest of the lecture.

Approach 2 (10pm)
We went to this university party, and one of my friends approach a 5 set, 1 guy and 4 girls. Me being his faithful wing for the night went in about 2mins later and introduced myself around. It didn't really go anywhere with most of the girls. The guy however was pretty fun to talk to, and one of the girls, (the ugliest) but she was still quite decent looking, gave me a few weak IOI's but I didnt do much. The other girls were pretty friendly too and nice people. If I was in a more talkative state this would have gone better. The other 3 girls were 8/10s at worst.

Approach 3 (12pm)
So after this my friend and I went to a night club. I was a bit tipsy by this point, but nowhere near drunk. I saw 2 guys with a hb6.5. I said fuck it and went in. I vibed really well and worked the whole group. Just pushing away the girl. She started giving me IOIs cause when I said lets go back in the club (we were smoking outside) she grabbed my wrist and let me lead her in. However, she also was giving equally strong IOIs to the other guy already in her group. I could but chose not to AMOG him cause he was a really cool guy. She kept flirting with me here and there. Before she left she came to my friend and I and pressed her butt into the side of my leg. I put my arm around her stomach area and as I kept talking to my friend and she kept talking to hers. Then she turned around and told me she came to say bye, so I grabbed her number and hugged her/ kiss on the cheek.

Approach 4 (2am)
This was crazy shit. I spot a really cute asian girl, HB7/8. My friend immediately opened them but the girl wasn't his type. (hes not into asians). She was a para-legal and she was out with 2 guys, her boyfriend (50+ white dude) and her boss (30-40 asian dude) and she I think was low-mid twenties. I hung back for a bit and decided fuck it lets go for it. I walked up to her and said "hey I noticed you checking me out and thats not cool, I have feelings too you know, Im not just a piece of meat". I make a really serious face and she looks kinda freaked out.The asian dude (her boss) who was with her gives the wtf man look. I slowly break into a smile and chuckle playfully. She realises its a joke, laughs and playfully hits me. Asian guy still does not look happy haha. Then I started pumping her buy temperature, within less than a minute of meeting her, I had hugged her, kissed her on the cheek ect. So my friend, being the great wing that he is is doing all he can to keep the two guys away so I can work on the girl. We keep playing around (lots of kino) I was stroking her hair and stuff. She didn't want to tell me her age so I screwed around with her a bit. Told her I was 11 lol. Then I say "hey you are a lot of fun. Punch in your number". So she says something along the lines of "I cant my bf is here". Her bf comes over and shes like "honey this guy wants my number, should I give it?". He tells me to stop hitting on his girlfriend and I said "bro relax, im only 11 she could be my mother. dont be so perverted". She laughs he looks pissed as fuck. Meanwhile the other asian guy is FUCKING pissed off. So the girl takes my phone and starts punching in the number when the asian guy, really aggresively (like even the bouncers looked) grabs my phone out of her hand, shoves it in my hand and drags her away quite physically. As she is being dragged away, she touches my chest and says "really I would, you are the hottest guy here". (haha im not that hot )

The bad:
I did not start strongly during the day time and early night
I was only truly in state for my last approach (maybe a bit in my second last)
I should do more approaches. Much more. Time was not a limiting factor.
I should not have drank any alchohol at all

The good:
I made 4 approaches today! Nice!
I really almost got a number close out of a near impossible set
I made some really cool guy friends who probably know some girls
I did push out of my comfort zone
I was just having fun and girls were into me because of it

Lessons:
What pua teaches. It really does work.
More approaches = more chances of hooking up
Have fun. Good things will happen.
Keep approaching till you get into state

Next time:
NO alchohol
MORE approaches.

Questions:
Think it was possible for me to get the girl in that last set there?


Haha. agreed. I am pretty commited and really would like to keep track of my progress and get good feedback. Yeah coincidentially, every approach I did last night was better than the last because I was more and more talkative/ in state.

Im in NUS, Singapore. What are you doing in Singy mate?