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Mystery's neghit theory :
A neg is a backhanded compliment, usually said by a man to a woman, to surprise and/or annoy her so she does a double take and tries to prove her value to the man. Negging comes from the Pick Up Artist community and was a very popular method suggested to men who wanted to take very attractive women "down a notch" in the mid 2000s.
Negs are short, sincere, to the point and should make the intended 'target' laugh or smile, not scowl or get angry. A neg intends to show an attractive woman that the guy talking to her offers something new and exciting to the conversation yet isn't tongue tied, swayed by her beauty or intimidated. As many men approaching attractive women start off with a compliment, this distinguishes the man who negs from the crowd. As well, if the neg works properly, the woman will try to prove her value to the man by engaging him, chasing him or other preening behaviors that show sexual or romantic interest.
Have you negged someone or used a neg yourself? Share your definition or what worked and what didn't: Neg Stories
The term neg originates with a Pick Up Artist who goes by the name Mystery (real name: Erik von Markovik). Mystery coined the term around 2004 or 2005 through his company, The Mystery Method, which teaches Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) how to transform into master seducers. Neil Strauss' book, The Game (2005) speaks often of negs and how to use them within the context of Mystery's Method.
Examples of a neg:
Growing up there was a kid in my class who always wore a weird green sweater, and we used to tease him about looking like a giant booger. I swear this sweater (touch arm lightly) is the same color!
Wow, great hair. Extensions?
When I first walked in I thought you had bitter beer face, but after talking to you I realized you just weren't having a good time.
Also Known As: backhanded compliment, crack, cut, dig, insult, joke, jibe, parting shot, put-down, scoff, slam, snappy comeback, snub, take-down, taunt
Examples:
"Lisa was neg-proof. Next to her, other girls seemed like incomplete human beings." ~ page 438, The Game by Neil Strauss
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I've realized that using negs on girls are in most cases unnecessary. Why? Because the goal of a neg is to lower a girl's value and raise your own value.
When you BELIEVE you have more value than the people around you , you will automatically neg them without even knowing it.(NOTE : Negging is not always verbally. Sometimes you can neg a girl using negative body langauge)
Have you ever been in a group having a good time and all of the sudden some random ugly chick starts asking you stuff like "whats up with you.. why have you been so mean with me?"
Why did this happen? You believed you had more value than what she did , because she's fugly. And because of that you automatically negged her(not verbally) without even consciously being aware of it!
When you believe you have more value than the people around you , you will unconsciously project it to other people as well.
Us , as human beings , are used to looking at others for what to believe in.
Most people don't create their own reality , they live in someone else's reality.
What is reality?
Everyone has a reality , some people have a strong reality , some have a weak.
Your reality is a set of inner beliefs you have about the world around you , and yourself. When you strongly believe that you ARE an alpha male . Other people will too - they get sucked into your reality.
The only reason someone would use a neg is because they need a way to show a girl they have more value than what she does.
But when you actually BELIEVE you have more value than ANY girl. You will no longer need to neg her. She will get sucked into your reality the more time she spends with you.
Your goal , as a pickup artist should be to create a strong reality. A set of strong beliefs about yourself.
Once you have that... you will automatically be successful , without even trying.
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