I just got this girls number at a bar last night and i didnt talk to her yet. what is a good amount of time to wait to start texting her? before we left we were talking about going on a triple date next week so i don't really wanna keep her waiting too long.

Call her in a 2-3 days and ask her out.
Don't text, you have mouth.

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did you say you would text her? if so do it ASAP because she probably gave out her number to a bunch of guys and you dont want her to forget you. say something with some recall humor so that you dont end up in an awkward "whos this?" conversation. be funny and witty.

please stop giving advice here. thanks in advance.

Well, who are you to tell me what to do, first?
Secondly, why do you think that if I'm wrong for you I'm overall wrong?
I just want to help, and he said above:
... then asked about texting.

I didn't know texting is equal to talking.

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You should have texted her right away to 1) ensure she's got your number, 2) solidfy the memory of you (e.g. if she was drunk chances are she wont remember who you are if you wait 2-3 days). One thing you could have done is made a game out of it by texting her right in front of her something funny about the context of the situation (e.g. "met this really cute girl tonight, wondering if I shoulda went in for the kiss")

You should have texted her right away to 1) ensure she's got your number, 2) solidfy the memory of you (e.g. if she was drunk chances are she wont remember who you are if you wait 2-3 days). One thing you could have done is made a game out of it by texting her right in front of her something funny about the context of the situation (e.g. "met this really cute girl tonight, I know she likes me too, I mean how could she not!!")

youre just giving awful advice.

first of all waiting 2-3 days with a girl you met in a bar is a bad idea for many obvious reasons.

second, shes HIGHLY unlikely to answer a call she gets from some random guy. shes probably not going to recognize the number anyway and either ignore it or send it to voicemail, and obviously neither one of those results is a good thing.

if by some miracle she answers the call now it has to really go well in order for him to get a date. but since its probably gonna start with something like "who's this?", "umm prophecy from the bar 2-3 days ago" its already off to a bad start and awkward. not likely to end well.

and third, im really tired of people coming here and saying stuff like
with that too-cool-for-school attitude like theyre way too cool for texting and they only call girls. the truth is that texting is FAR more likely to work in this situation. also it can and does work well for a lot of us in general in plenty of other situations. either method will work well if you do it well and fail if you do it badly. to exclusively use one or the other without even considering context seems like a pretty dumb idea to me.

so coming here acting like some macho superdude whos way above texting and only calls girls is not only obnoxious but it just goes to show that youre not even utilizing all the tools at your disposal.

this is great advice and pretty much guarantees that she will respond to your texts/answer your calls somewhere down the road.

Check out an article i wrote on Text and phone game, it will definitely help you out.

http://theattractiveu.com/text-and-hooking-points/


Examples


http://theattractiveu.com/text-game-with-hb9/


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When you exchange numbers, make sure she's comfortable enough to give it to you and have bonded enough. This would generally take about an hour of conversation.

If she remembers you. She won't flake. If you barely got her number, she'll more likely flake. Just my internal compass tells me.

Text timing really depends on how well we hit it off. If we K-closed, I'd call ASAP. If we didn't truly connect, I'd text in 2-3 days.

BS, only in your mind!
I text girls too, what do you think?
So for you guy who calls is a macho man, hence has bigger balls?!? lol
It kind it is, but why would you get angry???
Just saying that in his situation is better to call her.
And also, if the dude didn't text her front of her and make sure she got his number, texting or calling will end up the same way - "Who's this?"
I assumed she already has his number, and name.

p.s.
I read in other threads that you prefer to text, but why do you think this is valid for everyone?
And if it's hard for you to call it doesn't mean it's hard for everyone and it's a bad idea.
Basically you save a lot of time by calling and can proceed ahead faster, if rejected, compared to wasting few days in texting.

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i dont think its valid for everyone in every situation. like ive said many times before (and probably already itt) either one can and will work if you do them correctly and either one can and will fail if you do them incorrectly.

i have already laid out most of the reasons why i feel its definitely better IN THIS PARTICULAR SITUATION.

i didnt say its hard for me or that it was a bad idea for everyone. i want to use the method thats most likely to work. that should always be the determining factor imo.

so if youve been set up through your social circle and told a girl youd call her tuesday night, for example, then ofc id definitely call because youre not likely to be rejected.

but if its some random girl i met in a bar a couple of days ago when one or both of us may have been a little buzzed and i didnt do a lot to seed it (i.e., we didnt have some super awesome conversation whereby shes going to eagerly be awaiting my call) then im going to start with a low investment text message and build from there.
this is true but misleading.

youre MUCH more likely to get a response and start a conversation by texting here. why? because its low investment and isnt really dependent upon her current situaion at all.

however going for the phone call is highly situation dependent. sure she might be free to talk and recognize your number and you guys might have a great conversation, but that is a HUGE longshot.

most likely shell either be busy or not recognize the number. then you have to decide whether to leave a message or call back. now youre either playing phone tag or waiting for her to call you back. that is not a recipe for success.

based on my experience, a good sleep cycle is a good time frame typically. These dudes are right in that you need to enter numbers in your phone and ideally text them immediately with her there watching to make sure she got it. Just put your first name in the message and try to move on to a different girl and do the same. One thing I try to do before I ask and after I get it is let them know i'm leaving, then get it and leave. (if you ever get to advanced female players, some of them don't want other people to see you take out your phone but will fuck you anyway later, but that's a different topic)

I've had some luck with women who I met at lakes while boating who worked odd hours and were drunk at 3pm and had cock blocks on other boats watching her. What I would do there is, give her 12 to 24 hours after we met before I text. Generally on a woman of equal or higher value, allow a sleep cycle if it involved alcohol for you or her. But if friends were involved it can be a different dynamic.

One thing about texting while you are with them to make sure they got it is, sometimes they will text you if you wait it out. But within 12 hours if they don't, just text them. you have an overwhelming chance to lay those if you have a little patience and don't fuck up. I met one saturday, got the number about 3am(sunday am), and was going to text about 4 or 5 pm sunday but she texted at 2:30. Shes been blowing up my phone since