Hey guys, I just had the shittiest sleep last night because the girl I loved the most, the girl that I envisioned to have a future with just crushed it all before me.

Now this post might not be as well written as I hope it would be, and it'll be filled with a lot AFC shit but help me out bro's. I need someone to slap me in the face and tell me it's alright, perhaps even tell me what to do to get a new GF.

Oh and before I continue this, I do realize that this post is supposed to be in the relationship section instead of the General Question but since I'm more of a lurker than a poster, my post counts is not sufficient for that "elite" section.

Now onto the problems, I've been with this girl for like 3rd of April to 15th of August 2012, approximately, 4 months and 12 days and yesterday. She texted me that she's not really prepared for a relationship yet and thinks that we should re-continue this relationship in a few years time. WtF is that?

And then... since I'm really in love with this girl, I went against my previous PUA learning and started doing all the AFC stuffs like begging for her to take me back and shit like that. This morning I called her up for like 5 times and she finally answered. She was quiet and all while I was talking non-stop asking if we are still together.

All she said was a "mmmhmmm"

I then asked her, are you saying that because you feel sorry for me or is it because you actually changed your mind?

She then said, "what do you think?"'
I said "Because you changed your mind"
However, my guts feeling tells me otherwise.

I need help to get out of this mess.

Your gut is right. Don't worry man, I did something pretty similar about 2 months ago when my girlfriend called me up and said "I just don't feel that way about you". I begged her to reconsider, told her I was sorry, that things would change... didn't help. She just wanted to be friends.

As you probably know, she has lost attraction for you. There is no easy fix. The best thing for you to do is just call her and agree to the breakup, then initiate the greatest thing ever - NO CONTACT. Honestly at this point, you are probably done for. Luckily for you, she wants to continue in "a few years time" which means there's things about you she wishes would change, and she still cares for you. So go out and make those changes! Better yourself!

On no contact - it will allow you two things: the best chance to move on, and it will give her a chance to miss you and possibly reconsider that decision. But when I say no contact, I absolutely mean NO CONTACT... no calling, texting, emails, facebook, nothing. Take all of her things and get them out of sight. Write down her number on piece of paper, give it to a good friend, and then delete her from your life.

I got this information from the Ex2 System. While you aren't guaranteed to get her back, it will certainly help you move on. And if you want her back for good, moving is the only way to do it. If she gets back with you now, it's out of guilt and pity and it won't last. She has the power right now. You have to take it back.

Thanks for your advice. I would do that right now.

Wow, sudden changes in her. After the conversation we had this morning through the phone, she just texted me she still loves me and wanna be with me again. But this time, the damage has already been done to my heart and even though I feel really happy about her taking me back (AFC SHIT HERE), I somehow feels a bit more distant than last time.

Oh one more thing I missed out, she had this crazy talk with me yesterday and the day before yesterday about how we are progressing sexually too fast and she feels like I only use her for sex and would dump her after. I tried my best in reassuring her that I won't but anyhow, that shit happened.

Now what do I do? I have deleted all her messages and her contact number.

From my experience in relationships, once things start to take this sour path it never gets better. I've done the whole AFC thing in the path where I'm heartbroken and begging for her back. There's even been a few times where I have been taken back but it hardly ever lasted and even when it did last, I was no longer happy.

That's why for me, personally, I would move on even though you did receive this change of heart from her. In the end, the decision is yours though.

Thanks Owlstoop again! I'd put her on hold for now. Gave her my everything, my dedication and devotion but all I've gotten in return is this sour grape. I'll be much wiser next time in a relationship