This woman is supposed to meet me for drinks/dinner this Sunday and I am thinking that maybe I should just cancel because maybe I've already ruined any chance I had with her.

Or do I still have a chance to get her romantically attracted to me?

I'm really confused by her!

Let me give you a little back story, I started talking to her on a dating site a month ago. I met her twice so far. Once in the park for a play & once in a coffee shop where she performed music. Neither time did I try to kiss her or hold her hand or anything because I just viewed these as meetings.

During that time I wrote her some love songs/poetry.

Then time went by and I didn't hear back from her, so I emailed and asked if I did something wrong, and asked if she wanted to see me again. 4 days go by no response, then I get a email saying she likes a man to make specific plans, that had i asked her out in a more specific way, like dinner here on this day & time she would have said yes...

So I texted her back a specific date time i wanted to meet her again, and she agreed on this coming sunday.

In the meantime, perhaps I went overboard and told her some future possible plans of how I think it'd be great if things worked out if we got married and adopted a kid, and things we could do together etc.

A couple days go by and no response, but she was out of town, so I hear back from her and here in quotes is what she emailed me:

"Oh my gosh, Romeo, these are SUCH great ideas! I am not romantically interested in anyone right now, but everything you listed here is top priority in my book for the future. Even if you and I do not end up together, I would love to partner with you on serving the "downtrodden" with the off-hours of the business.

Wow, thank you so much for presenting all of those. Maybe we can talk more about them on Sunday. I found a really good place to eat called Santa Catarina, close to the Oasis. If you are still not cool on driving, I can cover that part. And the Brew is playing on Sunday at the Oasis, so double score!!!"

So...

What do you all make of that????

Here's my thoughts:

She said she's not romantically interested in anyone right now.
That could be her polite way of saying she's not interested in ME? Or, is her way of saying she's not romantically attached to anyone right now therefore she's open to going out with me and seeing if anything develops???

Then she said, even IF you and I do not end up together...

She said IF...

Does that mean that she's still considering me as possible boyfriend material????

Or have I already been totally ruled out and placed in the friends only zone?????

Here's a little more info that may or may not help in making judgements:

I am 37, she is 43. We are both passionate musicians therefore thinking a little outside the box than others. She has a day job as a elementary teacher. She seems very religious Christian, on her profile it even says she's looking for a man that puts sexual purity before marriage and she does not believe in sex before marriage.

So I understand maybe I cam on a little strong. But has the damage already been done and is it irreversible???

I mean obviously she knows I'm crazy about her, it seems like she would know seeing me this weekend would either just lead me on and make me that much more into her, I mean if friendship is all she wants it seems like why see me for a 3rd time and this time for dinner/drinks/dancing?

Any advice on what to do? How to act?

Should I try to kiss her this Sunday?

I want to try and escalate things, I want her to feel romantic towards me.

By the way she is the one that initiated contact with me on the dating website, so I would like to think she must find something about me attractive.

Is there any hope in anything becoming of things with her if I do meet her Sunday? Or should I just give up on this?

I'm confused. I don't know if she's trying to say she only wants to be friends with me or if maybe she hasn't figured out that for herself and maybe that's why she wants to see me Sunday to make a final decision on whether or not I am boyfriend material? Please help, thanks!
Romeo

Your obviously investing a lot more into this than she is.
If you were out fucking other women then you wouldn't have time to write such "future plans" nor would you think of doing such things.

Your reading too into this, its not a big deal, this would be your 3rd date based on your info she is a strong christian and no sex before marriage so expect to go on more dates before she see's you any what romantically.

She told you straight that she wants you to lead and it seems she's still picking the place, transport and conversation. Start Leading, it will get you soo much further.

Also you wrote this with the idea that she is the prize and she is qualifying you for "boyfriend material" qualities. This is not how you should be thinking of yourself, she should be jumping through your hoops and you should be testing if she is "girlfriend material" not the other way round. Give yourself more respect man

I'm no professional but that's my analysis

To answer your questions.
do I still have a chance to get her romantically attracted to me?
Yes

What do you all make of that????
She has a sense of humor, and you'll probably have a good time out her with. p.s. don't be afraid to qualify and tell her when she passes.

Does that mean that she's still considering me as possible boyfriend material????
Forget boyfriend material. Your the man you decide if you are or not.

Or have I already been totally ruled out and placed in the friends only zone?????
Escalate! you'll soon find out.

How to act?
Fun

Should I try to kiss her this Sunday?
You should try to enjoy yourself, if kissing is a result of this then bonus.

Best of luck

Thank you! I had never thought of some of those things before, but it seems to make sense! I am going to try leading more! And just have fun!