I was gaming this co worker first day i met her she was comparing me to
Another co worker (John) n how im much more" better ". Anysways, i got her number talked to
Her then lost interest. Occasionally she would text me good night. Then we stopped talkkng for like three months. I saw her at lunch sat next to her then she goes on talking about" yeah, i dont. Text or talk anymore since my bf left to mexico i only text John(co worker)" n which she said
He was boring. Also, she kept on trying for me to buy her something like soda or pay for this ring she had bought.

Wats ur guys take on this? Some sort of shit test or her trying to see if she "has" me. I
Just kinda looked at her and said "ummm no" lol im not being ur a lil bitch haha :p

Well?

I can't understand your story, or your question really.

Is she trying to be dominant? You said she tried to get you to pay for her drink and a ring she bought before (wtf?) which does seem like pretty bitchy way to see if you'll do little favors for her. But that isn't necescarily an attempt to be dominant and control the situation--it could just as easily be that she is just kind of a bitch and doesn't want to pay for her shit. I didn't really see anything else in your story related to dominance either. I'd need more information.

What is your actual relationship to this woman? Are you just vague acquaintances, or is she actually interested in you at all? For all I know when she bitches about this other guy and compares you favorably to him, she might just be complaining about him rather than trying to flirt with you.

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Just a simple test to see if you are pushover or don't have the balls to go a few rounds. Nothing too serious here, just stick to your guns.

Well the reason i asked is because she
Has asked me to buy her stuff before. I was just curious
On what that ment. We're just co workers nothing much
I knew she had a bit of interest before i just didnt do
Much cuz shee had a bf n just became legal.

I guess u can say dominant is the wrong word for this.
It feels more like a minor shit test and shes seems needy.

Should make fun of her(in teasingly sort of way). Put her in her place!

here is the thing man, between two people, one person is more sure of what they want, they will be the person setting the meaning for what is going on,

so if she wants to talk about her boyfriend, and turn this in to an interaction where the meaning is two friends talking and girl trying to get free stuff, and she is sure enough of that, that you fall into that frame and have that sort of interaction with her, then the frame is under her control

at any time you can step up and do what you want, really all you have to ask yourself is what do I want to do here to make this more enjoyable for myself? if you don't want to talk about her boyfriend, just start doing what you want, if you want to change the meaning of the interaction to the two of you, instead of her and her bf, start hitting on her when she brings him up, just make it obvious you're interested, show her what you want (to not talk about him cause you don't care), when she asks for stuff, who cares? you don't have to buy her anything, once again what do you want from this?. it doesn't really matter ''what it means'', don't try to game her from the perspective of what she wants, or try to figure out some perfect thing to say or perfect moment to do something because she did something and now is the perfect time to react to it, just stop reacting and start leading the situation, go for what you want, what makes you happy, what will make you enjoy yourself

If she is interested in you and has asked you to buy her stuff multiple times, then yes, it is a shit test. It isn't an unconscious shit test either. She is intentionally testing you to see if you will buy her shit she asks for. Don't do it, it's a waste of money and time. Next time she does, make fun of her playfully about it.

Her requests seem wacky even for this kind of shit-test. Asking you to buy her a drink or pay for dinner I can kind of understand--they are common things for guys to do and some women expect them--but asking you to pay for a ring she bought earlier? Who does she think she is? In my opinion that particular demand is absurd. I don't know this girl or the particulars of the situation, so I don't know if she's really needy and looking for validation, crazy, or just plain rude, but I cannot for the life of me think of a situation in which that request could make sense, even as a shit test.

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She's using you to validate her emotions, vent her frustrations, and hopefully get free stuff.

I'd seriously consider looking elsewhere. None of those activities benefit you at all.

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Thanks for the advice guys.

I believe she is usig the situation to validate herself or ego bust.

Its wierd because i sat next to her i noticed this ring so
I complimented her on the ring and thats
When she said "yeah im broke for buyin that ring i cant even
Buy a soda u should buy me one, or pay for the ring"

I was like wtf? Idk that there turned me off...
Idk u can say im picky lol