the dating game needs to work both ways. there must be a time where a girl is interested in a guy. i never had a girl show interest in me or approach me in my entire life. is that just me or is it common for all guys to not get some girls approaching them. is it odd/unnatural that a girl has never approached me ever out of interest in my life?

Its different. A lot of girls still believe in traditonal mating, meaning the guy takes the lead, he is the one who proposes and stuff like that.

The most i've ever got from a women who i met once was that she somehow found my number and texted me she had a great time and wanted to see me again. But even that took her like 2 weeks.

In essence: men lead the game don't count on women approaching you, because if it sounds too good to be true, than it probably isnt. And my friend, this sounds really good

it really depends, if you are out at bars/clubs you are more likely to get approached by women.

I think looks and confidence is a massive factor in it. I sometimes get girls come up to me either directly or indirectly like asking for a lighter but its obvious that they want to talk to you.

You probably missed invitations to approach. Most girls won't approach unless you're good at pick up or she is really frustrated and it is her way making a last attempt at getting your attention. Most girls are dorky on approach (since they don't do it often) or are too forward and make guys run away. So, when it does happen you have to cut her a little slack.

Once you get good at pick up getting approached once or twice a week for the average looking guy is about the norm. Not sure how many nonverbal approach invites that works out to. I'm usually off in my own little world so I only catch a handful of them or when friends point it out to me.

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For me the opposite is true. I am terrible at approaching girls, but I never try to approach them. My best luck has come from making the girl work to talk to me. might be a location/ culture thing though

Single mother/or over the hill 30+ needing a man to pay for her mortgage payment because she cannot do it on her own.


Thats normal, I had one guy show interest but never called back when I told her lets get together later for x event or x place etc. Another taxi will be a long to fulfil her spot etc.. I had 3 gay guys flirt/talk with me, thats my biggest interests in the dating world by people.....................

Unless you roll up in a limo/rich car/famously known/VERY GOOD LOOKING. Women really won't approach you.


Not at all, women have no balls thus rarely apporach and when you do get one interested in you like that, she probly is needy and stuff like that. A level 5 clinger. lol

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It is not AA that scares me or affects me anymore, its leading a conversation forward and keeping her interested. AA is nothing.

ok, think of how much you approach women,

now take into account that women are higher on estrogen and lower on testosterone, making them less prone to being aggressive,

now, think of your whole life and picking up girls, even at this point, are you comfortable with just approaching women directly on a regular basis?

if the answer is no, now imagine this from the point of view of a girl, they are more likely to be timid, more likely to be shy, and if you get approached by a girl it is HIGHLY, HIGHLY, HIGHLY unlikely that she will show interest off the approach, other then good body language and being highly receptive to you

but yes, women do approach guys, but you are much more likely to get an approach invite then get approached, just look for girls seeking to make eye contact with you, make the eye contact and hold it, if she smiles or preens, talk to her, you just got an invite

GOOD LUCK

If you walk into a place with a girl on either arm, you will get approached by woman. If you successfully hold court with a big group (all woman or most woman). You will get woman introducing themself to you.

Woman will intro themself if you are at a 'mutual' friends private party, at a secure, safe location. Where they know you are a trustworthy character from social-proof.

Woman are evolutionarily hard-wired not to approach men unless they have clearly demonstrated pre-selection. In the tribal days how would you know how mentally stable a man is without this. He may try rape you. As a woman you are weaker and more vulnerable.

In Europe or USA, girls do culturaly not initate approach to avoid looking like a slut. To initiate, she has to be in a very specific frame : high confidence, no risk of judgement, etc And you must either or both be :
- passively noticeable (usual stuff: something unusual in appearance that can act as an opener topic, like a rat on you shoulder).
- actively showing value (performing, etc).

For the story : I used to have platine blonde hair for a while, andit was enough to be initiated by girls on this topic.

Society has labeled it wrong, or politically incorrect for a women to approach a guy. Of course this is totally wrong, but thats the world we live in. Plus most women feel that a guy should lead and break the ice introduce his self and start things.

This comes from our roots, women want guys who can lead. Even though you may have women who want to approach you they more than likely wont because society labeled it wrong.

Ive had a few girls approach me so far in my life. I honestly expect a girl to approach me, i leave that to myself to go after a girl im interested in. You shouldnt put to much thought into that, or look for validation through that. Just go for what you want, it wont always come to you.

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