So if she doesn't flake, I have a Day 3 with this girl tomorrow.

The plan is for her to come to my place and we cook ourselves some pasta, and then we go onto a little hill to watch the meteor shower in the dark, alone. I told her to bring a sleeping bag.

I haven't even kissed this girl yet. The last time we ended up on the grass in a park nearby, and our lips were touching, I was kissing her neck, but she wouldn't reciprocate a kiss.

I said at one point, when I felt it was right, "I'm gonna ask you something, and I want you to be totally honest with me."

"Ok."

"How would you feel if I kissed you right now?"

She said, "I would be like, one side of me says go for it, while the other says don't."

"I asked you how you would feel, nothing else."

"I would feel excited, and good..."

"You're fighting with yourself."

"Because I don't give into my feelings just because I'm interested."

"Ok."

And I just kissed her neck. But as we were talking our lips were touching, etc. she was playing with my hair, caressing me...


So that's the backstory. I just want to know how to handle the situation tomorrow evening. What if she holds back again? Also, should I try to escalate on the hill or in my house after dinner? What would you do? If I were to escalate on the hill I don't know if she's into sex in the wild. Hmm.

Any suggestions appreciated!

she'll go soon enough ...get her worked up, sexual innundo, kino,..YOU stop, pull back...talk about something random,...start again! she want too...you just need to lead the way! She just doesn't want to seem slutty. Make it YOUR fault...she couldn't help herself!

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Thanks. So I'm thinking quite a bit of push pull and just having fun. Focus on the cooking and the wine, having fun. Then more intimate on the hill.

Not reaching anywhere with her before is an effect. Effect follows from cause(s).

You're talking too much.
There was no need to go with any words or actions after this point, other than kissing her full and straight (and not on her neck).

"one side" of her already gave you the green signal and that should have been enough for you to act. Instead you prolonged it and it lead to nowhere.

The problem with the whole men-women dynamic to an extent is that words are used in abundance, when they shouldn't. Why do you think women have such a fascination for the "strong, silent" types? It's because they don't say half as much as they show women how they feel about them, through their actions. As the cliche goes "Actions are louder than words".

So, instead of trying to seduce her with prose and poetry, keep it physical. Soft touches, occasional squeezes and body language should do well to ramp up the sexual tension. And do not hesitate to go for a kiss and everything post that, if you're getting the signals.

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