Man, if you really want a long term relationship with her. Go for it!

If you don't then what's to worry about? You already F closed her.

If you do want LT relationship, (and I dont mean to push you here) but next time you post here, I want to read you telling the story of how you became Bf and Gf. If not then I'll stop replying, seriously..

haha Just Kiddin. But think about it. You already Fclosed. If you want to be her BF, then go for it and ask her next time you meet. She's given you many chances in the past. Man up and go for it.

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".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "

Jeez.....your story sounds like I could have written it. Been there and done that.

The bit that's just made me reply is when you wrote about meaningful glances. i used to get those too, but nothing else. And it went on weeks. Eventually, with David D'Angelo's assistance, I realised that she was happy because she had my attention and devotion. I was always on tap and would always go out with her and she loved it. But she didn't want to do any more because she didn't need to. I was like a puppy.

Having learned from this - eventually - when i now find myself in this situation, I make an effort to be elusive ("Sorry - meeting a friend" etc) and more dominant ("You're going to Bar Blah - nah, don't fancy it"). Have also found a time constraint helps. Girl at work who I have some history with said did i want a drink but she could only stay for one. i said yes - but went home first and got dressed up for big night out. As soon as finished her drink, I said "Ok - bye then, I'm gonna stay out for a bit". So of course she said she could have another drink. We stayed out till after midnight, but I got a bit tipsy and grumpy cos i really have the hots for her. Was a tosser and said I didn't understand our relationship. She leaned back against the wall with a big smile saying that neither did she....all my power and intrigue ebbed away and she regained control. Spud.

Random but pertinent....Watched documentary about scientists who studied Anacondas (massive snakes if you don't know). They crush like pythons and aren't venomous. Anyway, they do bit in self defence and to release your hand, you have to push your hand further in to the snakes mouth absolutely contrary to what you think you should do. But it's that mind-shift that makes them successful with snakes. Women are just anacondas in high heels. If snakes had feet....look, it seemed a sensible thing to write a few minutes ago.

Good luck, but you may have to turn your back on her and just be colleagues, NOT friends, until she misses you again. Be more in control. And if conversation flags, tell her about anacondas.....

She flaked on me..
Her reason was legit (her grandma is in the hospital), but i don't care anymore..

She is still going crazy over what happened and i'm just truly done with it!

Thanks for all the replies, it helped me a lot! The mistakes i made with this girl, won't happen again!

I'm going to cut off contact for a couple of months now, just be colleagues.
Going on vacation next week, ready to game!