| I rarely post here but I thought this is something to share. To some this epiphany of mine might seem common sense but to some it may be helpful.
Couple days ago I was quite depressed. I already knew that had mostly something to do with me. I just didn't know what. I've periodically had this feeling throughout the years and just couldn't figure out what it was. Until recently (and yes I'll get to the how it affects PU in just a moment.)
So long story short, I realized that the reason I was unhappy was because I wasn't the kind of person I admired. Meaning I didn't like myself.
I understand that there are many different kinds of people with different ideals and basic probability theory will tell us that there is a girl with a fetish for precisely your type, but that's not what I'm talking about.
I want to talk about a characteristic that I believe, is very common and most men and women will find it extremely attractive. It is something men enjoy having, and women find irresistible. It is something I lack, but since I know what it is, I can work on improving it. It also is something most admired men seem to convey.
The characteristic I'm talking about is strength. Strength of character.
For different people it means different things but I'll try to explain what it means to me and contrast strength with power(not to say that power isn't attractive but I think it's nowhere nearly as great as strength).
Simply put, we can distinguish the two by saying that power is ability to influence other people, while strength is ability to not be influenced by power(hold onto your principles, courage, guts ability to take whatever life throws at you, integrity I'll explain in more details)
Strength is ability to do what one believes is right or wants to do regardless of its convenience.
Every time one could act the way one wanted to and didn't due to fear of unknown, or any other fear, that is a definition of weakness. And that wasn't attractive. At all.
e.g strong man wouldn't be afraid of conveying his feelings if he wanted to. he would choose whether he wanted to and his choice wouldn't be affected by fear or insecurities or desire to manipulate the other person, simply because he doesn't need that. It's a person that doesn't need to control other people and doesn't let people control him. A lot more people would find this kind of personality a lot more attractive than that of a person who tries to satisfy everybody and kiss up to them.
Attachment, laziness, insecurities or cowardice. Are the complete opposite of strength and seem to be some of the biggest turnoffs for women.
These, I believe, prevented me from realizing my full potential and living the kind of life I wanted. Not only living, but simply deserving the life I want.
Weakness is preventing us from maximizing our capabilities, enjoying ourselves and attract people that enjoy us too. It prevents us from being truly in love with a person we want.
It's my conviction, that weakness of character is a man's primary foe.
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