Hey guys,

I have been meaning to start this for a long time. My name is Mike, and I have come to the realization that one of the greatest pleasures in this life is women.

I grew up a nerdy kid in elementary and middle school. In high school I was bullied a little bit, but ended up switching schools because of it. (Not to whine, high school can be a jungle and looking back I still enjoyed it.)

Lost my virginity in first year of university. Now going into my fourth year at 21 years old. Technically have 9 lays, however never have I been with a girl I was extremely attracted to. I have never been with a girlfriend I loved. All the time I still feel a longing for the amazing girls I meet and cant have.

Right now, I would say my status is an RAFC.

I will try to post in here most nights talking about my progress. I hope this will keep me more accountable. So many times over the past two years I tried to begin my "PUA journey" and fell off track. I want to have the girls I am really attracted to. The feeling that I have experienced just talking to a girl that I am really into is indescribable. I can only imagine what it would be like to make love to one.

Looking forward to meeting everyone on the forum.

- Mike

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I am in an interesting situation, and one I have never experienced before today. Before I get into it, I will describe a little more of my background:

The year after I graduated High School, I took a year off a pretty much wasted it playing World of Warcraft... It's sad and kind of funny to say that what eventually snapped me out of it was seeing the hot character elf model in the loading screen, and thinking to myself, why don't I get that in real life?

On to tomorrow: I have a date set up with TK (I will just use the girl's initials to describe them). Well, I am not sure if it is a date.

A few days ago I returned from a weekend trip. On the bus that was taking us to the ferry boat, I saw her sitting down reading. I sat in the seat across from her, and looked over hoping to make eye contact. The 30 minute bus ride went mostly like this. Openers flew through my head... "how is the book?" etc. But I didn't do it.

As we got up to leave, I looked over and flashed her a smile, she saw and looked down. It seemed like she may have smiled back though. At the ferry terminal she was ahead of me and I saw her stop and turn around; she looked lost. I smiled at her again, and we looked at each other. "Are you lost?" I said in a joking manner.

We had a little conversation about where we were to go, and it turned out we had a lot of time to wait. She sat down next to me and said "since there is a long wait, I'm going to sit next to you".

This girl was an HB7, but had the look I am attracted to, and had a great personality. So for me she is more like an HB8. She used to be a competitive soccer player, is tall with blonde hair and a slim figure. She is definitely older than me, as she is beginning to take her Masters degree soon.

Anyways, we talked and connected well during the wait, and we sat together on the ferry. She seemed very intelligent, pursuing her masters in psychology. We were going for a walk, and I give her my phone: "you should give me your number, we should grab a drink before we both leave town" (She is moving to a nearby city, and I am going to an exchange with my university in three weeks). She seemed hesitant, and after she gave me her number she says: "I should tell you I have a boyfriend, I just don't like bringing that up for no reason"

That night I text her, she responds and seems very interested. Two days later I initiate texting again. A day after that she asks me if I want to do something tomorrow. I was a bit taken back, but now we are going for a hike/swim. I am not sure if it is purely friendly, or if there is a chance of more. But never-the-less I am extremely excited to hang out with her. A girl who I am very attracted too, who I met on a ferry less than a week ago, and now I am spending half a day with her, the two of us.

My hopes are not too high, I know its probably just friendly, but I am sure some attraction is there for me as well. I really don't know how to handle this one - I have never hung out one on one with a girl who has a bf.

At the very least, I made a new awesome friend. Part of me feels like I don't quite deserve this one too, as she almost approached me as much as I did her when she sat next to me in the ferry terminal.

I will update on how it goes.

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The date with TK was an amazing day for me, although not much escalated sexually. We ended up going on a bike ride and than a swim at a nearby lake. We stopped at a spot with a great view for lunch. The conversation was quite good throughout our six hours together. The best part was actually talking about philosophy and physics relating to the psychology she studies. She is a very smart girl. Since I knew she had a boyfriend, I did not escalate aggressively. And I don't think anything will really happen with her before I leave for my trip.

However going on an adventure with a beautiful and intelligent girl was an unreal experience, and almost a first. I cant remember the last time I had that much fun. I will look at that as a little victory in itself. Its crazy to think none of it would have happened had I not talked to her on the ferry. We have actually been texting quite a bit, and her bf lives out of town, so you never know what will develop. I wonder how long I should wait to ask her to hang out again?

Part of my journey in PUA will be reading material, forum posts, etc. to learn.

This morning I Read Attraction isn't a choice by David Deangleo,

Basically it said that women don't logically control who they are attracted to. You must excite her gut level attraction mechanisms. Her instincts.

"Use gifts, favours, and romance like a spice… not the main dish" Was a quote I really liked.

when a confident, cocky, funny guy does something romantic it means way more.

Never loose sight of exciting her and making her attracted to you: than everything else comes after that: what you do for a living, your values, where you want to live. She will only ever get to the point of qualifying those aspects of a man if the gut level attraction is there in the first place - and I am beginning to realize that most of that gut level attraction for a girl is personality based not appearance based. Whereas for guys it is the opposite. It is almost entirely appearance based.

When I see a hot girl, I go wow, she is hot. I wonder if she is intelligent/cool/interesting etc. If she isn't hot to begin with, I never even get to the qualifying stage. I don't really care what she is like, because I would never be attracted to her. Of course the next question is: What is it that girls are attracted to at a gut level?

I would guess girls are attracted to strength, power, a guy that can protect her against the world, raise a strong family (at least that is what she is attracted to on a subconscious level, evolved from cave man days)

- anyways, I should mention I currently have a HB6 F-buddy (SJ) as well as an HB6.5 (IF) I met at a club a few weeks ago I have hung out with twice. Its hard to be attracted to these two in comparison to TK... I need to man up and do some approaches at break/lunch this week.

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