So a few times I have opened a group by telling a small lie/fib that would evoke some significant emotional response from the group. After seeing the response I would tell them I am just kidding, joke with them a little, and try to DMV. I know lying probably shouldn't usually be used, however it seemed to work reasonably a few times.

Here is an example of one situation I can remember. I am in college and in a frat, and this is at one of our parties:


Me: Hey guys, did you hear the big news?!
Girl: No, what happened?
Me: I just talked to our social chair and we decided to have a dry night tonight, there will be no alcohol served and we are going to be playing board games instead!
Usually after this they would be a little shocked/disappointed/upset. and say something like "uhhh are you serious...?"
Me: hahaha Im just kidding. There will be alcohol as long as you guys are fun enough, What makes you guys think you should be allowed to drink tonight?

I don't like using a lie in an opener, but it seems like as long as it is something a little silly and not TOO important that it can be OK. It seems to do its job and getting the convo started. Let me know what you think!

if it is successful at opening then it is fine, all an opener needs to do is open. dont over think it man.

i might try this out, i hope you dont mind if i borrow it

joking and lying is 2 different thing. If that opens for you, use it.

Its a fun opener, try it. What is most important is that you open as many sets as you can in the beginning. You dont always need a clever opener, just go up to a girl and say: Hello, can i ask you something? or Can i have 30 seconds of your time or something that is short and simple. Use the KISS principle, Keep It Short & Simple. Then you can open many sets and get more experience with opening just imagine yourself kicking approach anxiety in the face with every girl you talk to.