Don't beat yourself up too bad Bro! That's how we learn!

Next time; Don't tell her, take the risk, take action, fucking SHOW her!

When your in that moment, and you think you should try? YOUR RIGHT!

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The only way it could have worked talking about kissing that next day is if you framed it " I had a feeling you wanted to kiss me me last night " Always make it about HER wanting YOU. If you do it for long enough it becomes reality for both you and her. Sounds crazy but cocky funny confident in situations like friend zones work. Make it playful and funny and even neg (insult) her here and there just not all the time and not too strong.

So now, Wait for her to contact you, when she does maybe tell her you need some advice about this girl you want to take out on a date. (make her jealous). Stop talking about you and her staying friends blah blah blah, never bring up you wanting to kiss her again.

Next time you see her and you're cuddled up just go for it. Don't say a word. Make eye contact, look at her lips, then eyes, then lips, kiss her cheek, whisper something in her ear, look her in the eyes again, lips, and just Kiss her. It will work.

You are reacting too much on emotion. Just play it cool. Before you do anything think to yourself, am i playing it cool or am I needy right now?

I think a quote from Chris Rock is applicable in this case.

"Know what a friend is, to a woman? A dick in a glass case. In case of emergency, break glass."

She has you in a glass case.. She's comfortable with you. She probably really likes you.. But you're a wuss to her and this other guy isn't. It's that simple.

Don't go out being all macho thinking that if you're macho you'll impress her. Just go get a hot girl and make her jealous. When she sees you around this hot girl she'll be the one wondering "What does that girl have that I don't have?!"

Also, deny her any comfort with you like you experienced with her in bed. If she says she wants to be friends, tell her, "I don't need a friend." If she wants to cuddle, ask her how she would feel if her boyfriend cuddled with another girl (Because, you're with a hot girl, remember?)

Stop spending time with her. Make it clear to her that you are not in the friend zone because you are not her friend: You're a love interest. The two cannot exist in equal space, for men.

So you think 3 weeks is long enough to start trying again? Now that she already knows I'm interested I figure she would think I still am when we next speak (probably after her holiday, she will text me or whatever). Do I need to act uninterested when I start again?

I should not have mentioned that I wanted to get with her this morning.. but I was so sure that she wanted me to as well that I just said it. I was almost expecting her to say that she was waiting for me to go in as well!

And one more thing, I have work Friday. Thinking about it I think she is there too. Do I go in? Or do I call in sick and then wait for the 3 weeks?

That's quite interesting actually. I did say to her how she was giving me signs and basically seemed as if she was interested.. but I suppose that is different.

Likewise a woman friend to a man, is a woman that won't fuck him!

excellent quote!

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No don't call in sick, be a man face your fears, do blow her off while there. do not bring up ANYTHING, wish her a good holiday! in the 3 weeks (I know this is hard):

Don’t text her. If she doesn't text you, she’s probably already over you. You only want to text her now out of fear that she might be talking to someone else. If an she never tries to contact you after you go no-contact with her, the relationship wasn’t going to work anyways.

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I can pretty much guarantee that she will text me eventually. The only thing difficult about work is that the people there know that me and her are close, and that she stayed the other night. They say stuff like "Are you too screwing yet or what?" "Do you ever stop talking to each other?" etc. That would be pretty awkward right now after this mornings confession, and I don't quite know how I'd respond to it. I imagine it would be pretty awkward for her too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zywIR_ZFLts


If you've never seen it... Great stuff. Beware of language.

Eradicate the awkwardness by completely acting as though it "never happened"! business as usual, two friends at work together...that's it!

You can handle it, it's only a few hours.
If she does...Play it off like the evil genius you are. It’s important here NOT to give in to the temptation of pointing out that you were ignoring her because of some precise reason. Don’t even hint indirectly towards it by saying “I had to think over some things” or “I had re-evaluate us.” None of that shit. Just keep it short Your busy...off having fun...even ask "Hey your a girl, where would be a cool place to take a girl?"

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Okay well I will get back on here next time I have some news. Thanks for the advice, it's really appreciated.

Just hope I can get things back on track after her holiday.. I have a bad feeling she'll be screwing this other guy by then. She meets him the day we both go into work.. so that's going to be a lovely thought.

Here is the good news....if she WAS interested in you, then this will increase her interest level further, making her LESS likely to find someone else than when you WERE with her. So think that over!

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She has text me just now. Saying "I'm in love with Mila Kunis!!"

What do I say to that?...

Is that the other dude?

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No, the actress. She is just saying that she loves her for some reason.. obviously wants to start a convo. I don't know what to say? I don't think I should ignore it, however.